Guys, I haven't been on here for quite awhile. Man it brings back a lot of memories though haha. Some of it seems silly to me now, and to think back on how I was, because I've been in a serious, LTR since Feb 2013
*I'm having issues committing now, since she has to move for work (about an hour away) and pretty much if I don't move in with her and her daughter, the relationship could end.* Main point, I still have pua urges, yet I care for and love the girl*
I would want to move in but I like my space, freedom, and I have been contemplating moving to a friends place in another state- going month-to-month on my current apt. makes that possible.
So it's been my longest relationship by far, coming up on 2 years, while before my longest relationship was about 6 months, and it wasn't very serious at all.
Before meeting my girl, let's call her Tia, I was on quite a roll too- I was having multiple hookups, and had some good flings that lasted a few months or so, which were sort of the best in a way- lots of fun, good company and no real strings attached.
Anyways I met Tia by chance on POF- it happened to be the one day she was actually on there b4 deleting her account.
I could tell she was different than I'm used to, didn't play so hard to get but rather obviously knew she wanted me, and wanted a relationship.
I was not used to this at the time, I was used to having flings w/one or the other eventually cutting it off.
Plus I was weary, as I was on the top of my game and enjoying it; but I thought this could be good for me to get close to a girl and post up a bit, see where it leads.
Well, we are different in some ways, but we tolerate eachother (she's religious, I'm spirtual, some different tastes in music, different social behavior). She treats me better than any girl I've met; but the part that makes me fear committment is that she has a daughter (I'm not ready for that) and her parents are old school traditional 'Asian', meaning they expect me to go to church a lot, and marry their daughter sooner than later.
My gf tolerates the differences I have with her, but now she's moving to another town, and the only way I can stay with her is to move in with her and her daughter- she said she'll meet me halfway in a town between us so I can keep my job too.. but the problem is, I've still had PUA tendencies, and at the same time I really care about this girl.
I don't know what to do!
I have picked up some REALLY HB's just for sport, but didn't connect with them because I can't do that to Tia. I love her, but I still know that the game is in me, and I might not be done playing it yet.
Although, we do fight a lot but always work it out, usually once a week.
Maybe I just went in too deep from the start, because I knew I wasn't sure but I was willing. Now there's a real attachment issue I can' just release easily.
Any advice guys? Again this is my first LTR and breaking up is something I've never had to do at this degree.
Thought I could vent it here and see..