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Thread: Is this alpha behaviour?

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    Default Is this alpha behaviour?

    I have been learning from an acquaintance who is a natural, and very dominant (other people tend to think he's the boss among the group even though he is not). But I'm a little unsure if I should pick up one of his habits:

    He interrupts other people whenever he has something to say, and would talk over the other person until the he/she shuts up.

    This is annoying to me and a few others, but I also wonder if this is part of what makes him an alpha over the rest of us.

    What do you think? Is this a useful habit to develop?

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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    I don't interrupt people(unless they do it for me) but if they interrupt me I keep talking. I think in certain situations it's ok to interrupt like if someone keeps talking and going on forever. Usually it's not necessary though and I think most women would think it's rude.

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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    Interrupting people while they're talking is rude. That is something I try to avoid doing, even if they keep on talking on and on.

    I wouldn't call that alpha since it actually annoys people and is plain disrespectful as well a bit childish, IMO. I would call that more beta behavior since he feels the need to be heard above everyone else, devaluing other people's opinions and thoughts. Alphas don't devalue those around them, but recognize their value and know the meaning of the word "respect."

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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    I also believe that interrupting others should be done only when called for, but girls seem to respond well to this, which confuses me.

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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    Simply say: "dude, chill out. You're so eager to talk that you're interrupting everyone. Stop for a second, breathe in and chill. Your time will come." while smiling. Say this while you put your hand in his shoulder.

    Girls like him because he's dominant. Why is he dominant? Because no one has the balls to stop him. If you have the balls to do this, then you'll be the dominant one.

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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    Simply say: "dude, chill out. You're so eager to talk that you're interrupting everyone. Stop for a second, breathe in and chill. Your time will come." while smiling. Say this while you put your hand in his shoulder.

    Girls like him because he's dominant. Why is he dominant? Because no one has the balls to stop him. If you have the balls to do this, then you'll be the dominant one.
    Yeap, pretty much.

    I'm new to this forum, but that Fox Mulder, Hank avatar guy has said it right sometimes now.

    Doing it in this funny and smiling way is the best option. You want him to smile too if he can, but shut up - showing you're the boss.
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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    Interrupting is NOT an Alpha characteristic...
    That expresses uncertainty & being over-eager, needy & attention seeking.

    A TRUE High Value Alpha Man is calm, cool, calculated, relaxed & patient.
    He speaks his mind & voices his opinion, yet he makes everyone else feel valuable by letting them communicate too.

    He's fun & interesting & initiates interactions.

    The interrupting guy will end up turning people off.


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    Default Re: Is this alpha behaviour?

    After reading the replies, some articles/books and thinking more.

    I've come to the conclusion that the game of power, becoming leader of men is not an action or act you put on, but a way of life. Masters in the craft use every opportunity in life to sharpen their skill at securing the winning position. Like in sports, those who only play once in a while will never be as good as those who practice everyday.

    Funny thing is that so many of us, myself included, go through great pains to justify our tendency to avoid competitions and conflicts.

    As to the original topic of interrupting others, this is actually a moot point now I think about it. Everyone uses different tactics to win, this is definitely a risky one, but this friend mastered it (not everyone likes him, but many do, men and women), so kudos to him.


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