I'm hoping that some of you guys who've had your shit together and nonetheless found yourself with a blank life slate have experience you'd like to pass down to guys who are in the same position. Some of these problems are particular to me, but some could help guys pretty much anywhere to have some answers to. And if you just have general life advice for men at this stage in their lives, that is plenty welcome also.
First, I'm the 25. I have a steady office job income and I'm all moved in to a quiet, boring suburb. I'm all set up to find a fat, shrewish wife through a dating site and live a miserable white bread existence shopping at Ikea and watching Parks and Rec until I drop dead of a nagging-induced aneurysm at the age of 42.
Or I could... Not do that. I could work out, up my wardrobe, and improve my game through practice and have loads of fun. I intend on doing that, but I have a few problems:
1. No social circle. I have one good friend. Just one, and she's an ex, so winging is out. I'll have to start from scratch here and have no idea where to begin. This ties into 2.
2. My game and social skills in general are pretty bad because I'm neurotic/socially anxious. (They're on a completely different level when I calm down, but it takes me a small miracle to get there.) I need advice on how to fix this, other than going out more frequently, which I've already started doing. Nothing else can happen until this part of my mind is right, but it's taken me this long and it's still a major problem (as reading my old posts might show). If you think pills are my only solution, say so, but I'd prefer not to have to use them (or alcohol, which I'll be using anyway since I love craft beer).
3. Pretty damn boring by most people's standards. It's possible that most of my waking life has been spent on the Internet. That's got to change, obviously, but the question is into what. The circles in my hobbies are either hard to find, limited in number, expensive, and/or generally don't attract good-looking women. I need to find something, anything to do that'll refresh me, make me relevant, and give more people something to relate to.
4. I'm aimless. I have few definable life goals that don't depend on someone else's approval, nor an overarching purpose or belief that makes me care more about what I want and less about what other people think. This sets me up to be weak-willed, supplicative, boring, and easily depressed. I can't ask another person to set my life goal, but I can ask what you did that helped you find yours. (I used to have this, but I lost it when I realized that I didn't have what it took to pursue it).
5. Wickedly narcissistic and self-conscious. Working on these.