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Thread: The Importance of Showing LOVE

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    Default The Importance of Showing LOVE

    Sup fellas,



    It's been a while since I posted on here. But I am back for those who care to post a little inquiry I've had as of late.

    Humbly I must say I do a pretty good job of getting people to like me. I am fairly good one-on-one and creating a lasting quite impression in interactions with new people. This sounds like I should be a social beast right? WRONG. Well not completely wrong. I am a fairly decent but I make a critical mistake that prevents me from getting people to go from LIKING me to LOVING me.

    The issue is I don't show enough love back. To elaborate, I get people to hug me and tell me how great I am and how much they enjoy my presence. Sounds good right?

    The problem with this is I don't reciprocate the LOVE.

    And by "LOVE" I meanthat I don't let people know how much I appreciate them.

    I remember reading something about how people don't know how much you like/appreciate them unless YOU TELL THEM! People aren't mind readers. I am guilty of this. I don't show too much emotion. I tend to come off as I don't really like them as much as they like me which is the opposite of how I actually feel. I give off a more disinterested vibe in a sense.

    With that being said I am trying to show more appreciation of people in interactions. Whether that be going for the hug first or telling them that they are the coolest person I know, it is a valuable lesson I learned. When people tell me how funny I am or how much they "love" me I feel so much more attached and open to them. Even if they don't truly mean it I still find myself liking them more as a person because they show that appreciation and praise for me.

    So the take home message of this post is to show LOVE! Not too much love but show some nevertheless. It will drastically change the dynamic of your relationships with people. Having that little increased interest in a person can be the difference between being lovers, best friends, or just casual acquaintances. I've messed up so many times by being a little to sensitive about opening up to people just a little bit more. It is just my nature to be more guarded and less open so I have to combat this and let people know that I am appreciative of what they bring to the table.

    Hopefully this helps some of you out there who make strong first impressions but fail to transition into anything more serious. Try this out!

    Until next time,

    - Othello


    ps. I greatly appreciate you all.
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    Default Re: The Importance of Showing LOVE

    I remember reading something about how people don't know how much you like/appreciate them unless YOU TELL THEM! People aren't mind readers. I am guilty of this.
    I remember reading something like this as well.

    in dale Carnegie's book "how to win friends and influence people" there is a chapter about 1/4 of the way through the book about showing your appreciation for others. it gives an example about how president Roosevelt was loved by all at the Whitehouse because he gave attention to everyone he saw there and showed his appreciation for the work they did.

    showing your appreciation of others and rewarding them for showing interest in you is one of the keys to social success.

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    Default Re: The Importance of Showing LOVE

    I think showing appreciation is good unless you show it too easily. People shouldn't think you're being hypocrite. Showing appreciation is very important but must be genuine and be given only when it's deserved.

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    Default Re: The Importance of Showing LOVE

    I think showing appreciation is good unless you show it too easily. People shouldn't think you're being hypocrite. Showing appreciation is very important but must be genuine and be given only when it's deserved.
    obviously your appreciation should always be genuine. don't lie just to make people like you.

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    Default Re: The Importance of Showing LOVE

    Thats an interesting thread, and very true indeed. It's very easy to forget that everyone else to a certain degree are 'fragile' human beings like us that craves to be liked/loved. And by showing your true appreciation for people will help bringing your relationships to the next level. It's something I struggle with myself.


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