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    Default Asked Advice on Sexual Tension - I'm Stumped by the Circumstances

    Hey all,

    Long time no see

    I got asked for some advice from a brotege and I'd like your-all's input on the situation.

    Guy in a LTR (co-habiting with his girl / both in college) notices the sexual tension has flatlined. The catch is she is, because of bad experiences in her past, gets turned off by traditional innuendo's, and more direct sexual advances in non-sexual contexts - which would ordinarily be the solution. Also she has enough entry-level sales training to spot basic NLP and has similar aversion to it.

    <Assuming that replacement/escape is the less desirable option than having the skill to control the situation>

    My advice has been to try a week or two of tension-building with these ideas:
    Get her chasing by a combination of Freeze Out + cat string of attention and praise in a push/pull heavy way.
    Get her aroused by dropping lower level NLP (triple entendres, etc) and erring on the side of gender polarization when possible.
    Add in a few novel experiences (e.g. take a spontaneous trip or explore sexually) to trigger a change

    If that doesn't work after a week or two, I'm suggesting him to have a re-DTR talk which will probably prompt her to resolve her mental hang-ups.

    Any thoughts? Places to improve?
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    Default Re: Asked Advice on Sexual Tension - I'm Stumped by the Circumstances

    The problem isn't seduction; the problem is comfort / rapport. LMR comes from a lack of comfort / rapport, which you've noted.

    The Freeze Out was meant for pick up, not relationships; It's band-aid, not a solution. He needs to go back and build comfort until she's entirely comfortable with him.

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    Default Re: Asked Advice on Sexual Tension - I'm Stumped by the Circumstances

    I didn't understand what you meant by direct sexual advances. I would just make her give her pink balls over and over again until she starts initiating.
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    Default Re: Asked Advice on Sexual Tension - I'm Stumped by the Circumstances

    Basically, that's pretty much it. She's getting bored and maybe, from a few unknown slip-ups, might be losing security with being with him. Freeze Out is a basic, "you're on the line of getting bored with me, or pissed me off, so I'm freezing you out to show you how it feels to be without me". So the 30-day method is out. The push/pull method, I like to call the negative-positive-negative reinforcement trick is if you just got into a relationship or just on the brink of hauling her in. I would say that new sexual techniques, threesome maybe, depending on the sexual desires she may be hiding, which needs to be brought out of her. It might be that she had dreams that she had never pursued because she thought them impossible and gave up and now she's rethinking, in which case he would need to talk to her about then try supporting her on pursuing those dreams. Horribly deep subconscious reality could be she's found a bigger cock, in which case would need a lot of making up in the confident and self-projected ego department. I don't know if anything I said makes sense to you, but you asked for thoughts so here they are. Hope they help.


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