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Thread: Need advice plz

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    Default Need advice plz

    So there is a girl who recently caught a hold on my soft side. She stopped hanging out with me about a week ago and got back with her ex. We vibed really well and have a lot of similar interestes and all that stuff. But she recently got back with her ex, upon which i went no contact in an effort to remain high value (i think my value crashed when she realised i was pretty into her).
    She just texted me today saying she wants to hang out soon, and fb posted a quote from this band we like, basically announcing that shes done with her ex. Curious if i should text back or leave her hanging? I do like her, but Im not sure if she is worth it, I dont want to be just a back up or come off as needy. Any advice on text game would be awesome, please help. Thanks,
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    Default Re: Need advice plz

    Hey dude,


    She is more than likely looking for a rebound guy at the moment, with no strings attached. If you really want to date her, give her a little bit of time to jump into any commitments, her friends/family/herself all will think it is really strange to jump from guy to guy. So don't.

    That being said, you can definitely game her for a rebound, and hang out with her, plant a little bug in her ear and get her attracted to you in a non-needy way, and you are more than likely going to be first in line for A- having rebound sex with and B-her next relationship (if that's what you are attempting to do).


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    Default Re: Need advice plz

    Hey Soulshine,
    I agree with what lifestyle said. She would not be talking about her ex if she were completely over him, right or wrong? Right. Okay, so you can continue to talk to her, flirt her up, but be cautious. She should not be the only woman that you are trying to game right now. Let me tell you why, she's acting like she's looking for a KISA (Knight in Shining Armor) she's trying to bring the KISA out of you by talking about her ex; she wants to hear you say, "Don't worry I'm nothing like him, I'll be there for you, I'll never leave you....etc." So, this whole time you think you're courting her but she still has feelings for her ex. That being said, the second the jackass comes by and says, "Baby I'm sorry, I love you, I was wrong...... and whatever other bs he typically uses when they argue" she's going to say, hey soulshine, I'm sorry, you're a sweet guy but my ex keeps texting me and says he's sorry and he's changed and all.... friends?...... you don't want this. So what I would do, more or less, is flip the script, don't give too much personal input on what you think of her ex but try and draw what she really thinks of him out of her. Ask questions that essentially put the pressure on her, not too too much though. If you keep asking her stuff and getting her to reveal new things it makes her chase you because you care about her and her feelings without spewing all this poetry at her. My recommendation though, keep your eyes open, plenty of women out there. btw, I have been in your situation before so it's essential that you don't fall into her rebound category (momentary relief while she thinks shit through).
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    Default Re: Need advice plz

    Greaqt advice guys, and a big thank you. UPDATE: I went to her house a few days ago, i told her we should chill as friends hoping it would have a push/pull effect. We went to this cool park and had an awesome time, but get this: i drove her home and her ex was "giving her a ride to her friends house" (lol). We pulled up and her ex weas there and she freaked out and ducked in my car. I, like an idiot, played along and drove her around the corner to let her out so he wopuldnt see her. He called her and she straight up lied about where she was and even said i love you to him. I cracked a few jokes on her about it and pretended like i didnt care. Later on she is texting me saying that HE SAW US, how boring her ex is and that she wants to chill with me. She said, "im such a bad liar" to which i said "i dont know about that" ;p. Its been a few days and we havent talked much, though she has been poking me on facebook ;/ I think im going to let this one go, what do you guys think?

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    Default Re: Need advice plz

    Nice you went out with her. But do you think that her ex was coming by to take her to her friends house? Also, she wouldve just asked you to drop her off at her friends, so there clearly some other agenda there, it doesn't mean sex but maybe they were gonna "talk things out". I like your reply though when she stated that she thought that she was a bad liar! Either way, convey that she's hanging with you because you're a cool person to hang with, if you say you're hanging with her it looks like you have no other entertainment besides hanging with her. You want her to want to be with you because you're fun to be around. I say you're doing a good job so keep going, schedule another meet up, be specific. As always don't focus all your attention on her. Keep working
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    Default Re: Need advice plz

    Yo Soulshine,

    Love the handle man.

    I think you've got some good advice here, but I'm gonna drop my 2 cents into the jukebox anyways, just for funzies.

    So you caught some feelings for this girl? She's got an ex that she's kinda sorta talking to? Now you guys went out on a little date-ish excursion and she said she wants to chill with you?

    From my perspective, you're in there like swimwear bro.

    Invite her out with you and a bunch of friends. She says her ex is boring? Plan something fun that you would like to do anyways (the key here is don't plan it just for her, do it for you), get a bunch of your friends together, then tell her "Hey, me and my friends are doing (insert really fun activity here) you should come, bring some friends"

    Boom, low investment date. No pressure on her because it's not one on one. I think she'll probably respond to this because she's already shown signs of liking you and enjoying your company.

    Then you have a great opportunity to share your good vibes with her, up the sexual Tension, and see where that goes.

    Here's the catch:
    If she doesn't accept your invitation, you MUST do the fun thing you planned with your friends anyways.
    Don't ask me why, I don't make the rules.
    You just have to do it

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    Default Re: Need advice plz

    Her bro u should use the Straw man tactic here. I m giving you the advice do not create any emotional commitment with this girl. As you know girs can be bitch so quickly. It s not good choice. Actually brother if i were you, i d act pragmatic, so your target must be fuck her. Do not think about any second for relationship. She lied to you and u did NOTHING, just acted like a low value beta guy. U must at least make some cold treatment. Avoid to be friendzoned here. Just make your game, invite her to your place and stab your dick to her vagina. Fuck is the best way to forget things. If u can fuck enough, she would not think about much. I m avoiding as all clever guys to do not make some commitment, who has a relationship short ago. If life is bitch be the Pimp. Make your game FUCK&DUMP her for your well..


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