my name is Janni and Ive been reading the PUA Forums since summer 2008. As of mid 2010, Ive been going out consistently. My motivations for doing this changed. Where in the beginning I just wanted to get more girls, Im now going out to push myself to new levels. The good feeling that comes from your daily dose of pickup (both day and night) is a feeling I will never want to miss again.
There is not “one thing” to being a good PUA, but what helps to feel good in general is to know you can have a friendly conversation with people all the time. Often times, I would just not know what to say, or not have an idea how to “make this fun”. But once I got this down, I now simply feel at ease most of the time. I know that whatever is thrown at me verbally, I will be okay. A realization I had is that it’s never about the content, but the goal is to talk just for the sake of talking.
But how can I specifically train my humour, or learn to just express myself without freaking people out? Because just as with approaching chicks, you will make a fool out of yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone.
Going out and being with people is the #1 way to do this. However, Ive been looking to specifically improve my conversation skills online by talking with random people or training partners. After checking out Chatroulette and Omegle, I found that its practically impossible to have a solid conversation with people on the existing websites.
Does this even make sense to focus on your conversation skills? You don’t have to, but I like the idea that one day I can have the verbal dexterity of a Russell Brand. This guy is so fun to listen to. Hes been a standup speaker and comedian + (radio) moderator for 10+ years, which is according to him where he got his wits from.