Brief synopsis of situation:
I spend the last 15 years working a schedule that made it pretty much impossible to have any kind of life due to the number of hours I worked....now Ive just moved to Kansas City, I have a new job and its only 40 hours a week and I have the time for a life again. can anyone guess my issue? its simple, I have some basic social skills though Ive never been a social butterfly, Ive never been great at making or keeping friends(usually due to schedule) and although I somehow found the time to meet a couple gals and had some long term relationships with them I was settling for less that I ever should have.
Now Ive been chatting up some gals online with mixed success, but not bad(finally gained about a half dozen numbers in the last week), my texting skills are mediocre, but it has led to a couple meet ups where I felt like I totally blew it! A few of my texts have proven to be turn offs as well, though I cant be sure of what it was.
So basically Im looking for tips on making new friends from scratch in a new area...guy friends and gals
Tips for texting that leads to intimacy or even just going home with the gal I eventually meet.
And finally, when i meet that gal for the first time(even if just looking to be friends) how to keep the conversation going.....Ive never been one for small talk and maybe I need to be?? if the conversation goes ok, Im usually pretty good from there.