What's up guys, I'm Santana J. You can call me Santana, or J., or Santana J., if you like. However, if you call me by anything else, I probably won't respond because I'll have no idea you're talking to me.
Now that we have that tied up with a nice red ribbon, let's talk about why I'm here. I want to learn how to pitch again. What does that exactly mean? We'll get to that in a second, but first, you should know a little bit about me.
You see, I used to be really good with women, at least by my own standards. I don't know if I was necessarily a "PUA", but I always had stretches of time when I was dating multiple girls, and I never had a problem approaching anyone and talking about anything. In fact, I was always the "go-to" guy for my friends whenever we were out on the prowl.
A couple of years ago, I started dating a girl I had been friends with since college. She was the "type of girl you'd want to marry" (sorry for all the quotes, by the way). Our love for each other grew very quickly and it wasn't long before we had moved in together and gotten engaged.
However, all was not what it seemed. Life had not been kind to her and there was constant fighting and unwarranted mistrust in the relationship. To make a long story short, I was miserable and knew marriage would only lead to divorce. I called it off shortly after we had been dating for two years. While I was initially hurt by having to say goodbye to my best friend, I can honestly say I've completely moved on from her and have had no problems putting myself back out there.
So now that I'm single again, I'm find attracting and seducing women to be more difficult than it used to be. Granted, the playing field has changed for me; most of my good friends are married and I'm a lot busier with my career than I was previously. But that's never been something to stop me in the past, and I know that's not what's stopping me now.
Let's get back to learning how to pitch again. I'm a big sports fan and, in baseball, it's fairly common to see a pitcher in his twenties come out and physically dominate a game. They have a fastball no one can catch up to and breaking pitches that make hitters look stupid. But, as they get older, their body starts to break down. Hitters catch up to their heater and their off-speed stuff doesn't move like it used to. They reach a crossroad in their career where, if they want to stay in the game, they need to learn how to pitch differently.
Playing the game how I used to play it has gotten me nowhere. I don't know if it's me or if the women I'm trying to pick up are different then the ones I used to attract, but my self-confidence has taken a major hit. I want a change. I want to learn a new set of skills to achieve the lifestyle I'm looking for.
In other words, I want to learn how to pitch again.
So where should I start? This is the first PUA forum I've ever signed up for, but I have read "The Game" so I'm somewhat familiar with the community I've signed up for. I also have a lot going for me personally, and I would love to find out how I can take the assets I possess and use them to my advantage.
Finally, I want to thank you all for providing a medium to learn. This can initially be intimidating but I know the answers are here. And, from what I've seen so far, it appears you all have each others best interest at heart. I respect that and anticipate the day I can provide back to everyone.
Thanks again guys. Hope to hear from you soon.
- Santana J.