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    palnajar3 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default the honest truth. i think i have confidence issues.

    whats up everybody. I'm a new member to the forums and I'm looking forward to making progress with myself and improving with the ladies.

    so a little about myself.

    i just turned 21, i live in a big city, go to a university with tons of hot women. i stay active and maintain a nice body, a lot of people tell me I'm a good looking young man but sometimes i don't buy it. theres days where ill feel on top of the world and then theres days where i wonder what people are thinking. I've hooked up with a handful of girls before, some very attractive even, but something tells me that i should be making more progress than i have recently. i work a lot and try to focus on school but for the most part, my buddy down south needs some more love.

    i think my biggest problem would be the approach, I'm thinking even Approach Anxiety. and another thing is i think i either don't take hints correctly or i just don't close right.

    but anyways, i don't want to sound like a depressed person because i have a lot going for me, a good job, i think I'm very decent looking with a good sense of fashion, and i have a lot of charisma behind the shyness. so hopefully with the help of the forums and getting over my own flaws, ill be able to use that confidence to seduce the ladies... a lot of them.

    more importantly, i would just like to have better social skills in general. i believe a big part of success comes from the way you interact with people. and i have ambitions of becoming a successful person with wherever i may end up in life. so i would just like to say i applaud everyone who has the courage to open up and admit their problems, as i have a hard time admitting mine, but i think this is the first step in making a change so I'm excited to go through with it.

    thanks for taking the time to read this intro fellas (and ladies if you're reading too), and i hope to learn a lot from all the advice.

    cheers!

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    SonnyCurtis is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: the honest truth. i think i have confidence issues.

    Welcome man. Get out there and start socializing! With anyone and everyone. Not just hot girls because you wanna get in their pants. Not just with "cool" people. Talk to everyone! Listen to a stranger's story, learn how that person works, learn how to open people up, learn how to validate other people's emotions. This will help your social skills immensely - you'll learn how to Fluff talk but more importantly you'll learn how to connect with people on a deeper level. In the end it's worth it just for the broader perspective you gain. Yeah it'll help you with the ladies but you're gonna realize it's not even about that.

    I'm about to be 21 in September. I had social anxiety through all my teen years but I didn't even realize what it was until about a year ago. For the longest time I thought I was a loner, I need my alone time, I don't like being around people a lot. But since I've put myself out there I can't get enough of people! I'm a people person through and through. People are awesome. And if you take a genuine interest in people they'll take a genuine interest in you.

    Good luck with your pursuits man. Don't be so hard on yourself. You sound like you're doing good. Don't let the fact that you want more get you bent out of shape. Learn to appreciate what you have now but always be striving for something more.

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    palnajar3 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: the honest truth. i think i have confidence issues.

    thanks man, i really appreciate the advice!


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