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    jaserhiga is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Stuck - I care to much what other people think about me !!!

    I still have some friends but when it comes to meeting new people i become awkward and don't know how to keep the conversation flowing unless i say something extremely weird and make people say wtf and laugh. I need help with changing my life and attracting girls by getting out the awkward position. Whenever I'm not awkward, most people like me but I'm very bad at not being awkward with strangers.

    I kind of want to go back to the time when I didn't give a fark what other people thought about me

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    Default Re: Stuck!!!

    Then do just that. Just be yourself. Do your thing and don't worry what others think. If you enjoy yourself others will enjoy your presence.

    Keep your chin up. You're young. It gets better, I promise you that. Never give up on yourself and you will get everything you ever wanted.
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    Default Re: Stuck!!!

    Quote Originally Posted by jaserhiga View Post
    I kind of want to go back to the time when I didn't give a fark what other people thought about me
    Then do exactly that. Don't give a flying fark. Get out and talk to as many girls as you can. Doesn't matter if they all lead to dates or not, just keep practicing and being in the position of taking action by talking to girls. All types. Even if you don't like them, it's practice. It's a probability numbers game, you will eventually succeed and learn what not to say. Also readers are leaders, read lots of books, they will help improve your daily vocabulary and expression. Im more talkative when Ive been reading a lot.

    I taught my friend recently about 'resetting the clock' nights. I would go out on the town and aim to kiss as many girls as possible. I first tried this after I moved to a new city and had been so entrenched with my new job I had not got out and talked to many women. I changed that overnight. My mission was to talk to as many girls as possible and see how fast I could kiss them. I bypassed small talk completely. I would literally go up to girls and say this: 'hi there (smile) how is your evening going?' Whatever their response was I would then say 'I can make your night better'. They would almost always respond 'how?' I then say 'lets kiss!' or if I had had enough beers I would just kiss them. If they are somewhat interested but keep questioning me I pull out lines like 'if you dont kiss me you might go through the night not meeting anyone and regret it' or 'Im a good kisser, whats the worst that could happen, you dont want to wait until some drunk guy with a hairy back approaches you later do you? lets kiss' or 'oh well your loss, I'll go find someone better to kiss, seems like you musn't be a very good kisser'. If they aren't saying much grab them and start kissing them. If they don't seem interested at all move straight on and in fact try and do the same thing with girls near her so she sees it. Rub it in their face. I approached one girl and she was hesitant so I straight away asked her friend who instantly obliged. Then the first girl wanted a kiss too because she was the 'alpha girl' in her group and I had suddenly gone on to her friend, so I stood there at the bar kissing them both. It might take a while to build momentum like that but eventually you will be so used to approaching girls with a very direct and forward proposition you wont have to worry about what to say. Why? Because you don't give a fark. Your acting so quick you dont have time to say anything stupid or fall helplessly in love with them. Your going to get some action in tonight whether it's with them or not. You are smart enough to know that eventually one will say yes. But the proposition is also safe to her...your not going up and asking to fark. It's just a kiss! Just like spin the bottle. Always talk to women. Now your 16 so probably not going to bars fully but you can apply the same technique to any situation where there are lots of girls. You could do it at the mall with a hershey chocolate kiss if girls your age are more innocent. It doesn't matter - the main thing is to keep practicing. Practice dating girls online. Try some tests, talk to girls you have no interest in and see how they respond to certain questions or comments. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, put them in all the baskets.

    I went to an all boys school. I made friends with other guys from other coed schools through playing in bands and joining district athletics clubs etc. I got introduced to their network of girls. See your situation as an opportunity not a disadvantage. You can't meet girls at school so you HAVE to meet them elsewhere.

    Every man gets nervous and says stupid stuff in front of women. The ones who succeed are the ones who keep trying. Action speaks louder than words. Everywhere you go approach and talk to girls. Whether your 16 or 60 practice makes perfect. Sometimes 1 step backwards eventually leads to two steps forward. Look forward to failures because they will give you experience, which will lead you to success.


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