This has happened multiple times now. I'm confused.
Girl #1 I used to work with, she left for another job, we were friends on Facebook, I randomly sent a message to her "when you gonna let me tap that?" half joking but she replied with "lol what" and I said "well you didn't say no, so when will it be?" We proceeded to have a 3 day long back and forth, I escalated to asking for her # so I could send her a naked pic, she replied back with naked pics of her own, we sent dirty messages back and forth and I even had her naked at work lol. I had been trying to meet up in person for a little bit and she said her roommate would be gone on a Friday night (we were talking on I think a Tuesday so it was 3 days away) and she said I could come over at 11pm Friday for sex.
Fast forward to Friday and it's 4pm and nothing, 5, 6, 7, finally at around 8 I asked her if we were still on for tonight and no reply at all. She didn't message me at all, the next day I asked her what the hell and didn't hear anything so I let it go for a week and texted her back and we talked again but it wasn't the same. I was clinging and decided to just let it go.
Girl 2 I met online, we talked dirty, traded dirty pics and messages, she told me I made her super wet, I pushed pretty hard to meet up in person, she said "not now but for sure tomorrow night" I replied back with something like "ugh I want you now" and she kind of laughed it off and told me to wait til tomorrow. The next day came and went, no messages, no replies to 2 other messages so I let her go also.
Girl 3 I work with currently, we were sitting next to each other and before she left I casually said we should trade numbers, she gave me hers but I didn't give her mine. I decided to try and not be so clingy and didn't text her that same night, waited til middle of the next day, talked and basically just said "here's my number so you have it, I'm busy but talk to you later." She texted me back, we chatted, I suggested a movie at her place, she said okay, then I texted her asking for the address and if she had a movie picked out for us, she said can we wait a few hours, I said never mind, just forget it then for tonight. Yesterday she texted me, I asked what she was doing, she said no plans and I asked for a movie again she said "yeah sure" we set it up for around 9:30 after I was done working. I text her at 830, no reply for about 45 min, she says she's been battling a hangover all day, I tell her a movie would probably help take her mind off it, she doesn't reply for 30 min, I text "problem?" she says she fell asleep for a minute, I never replied to that.
Why do girls keep making plans and then backing out completely? Am I being way too impatient and clingy? Girl #3 I figured was interested because I noticed when we were talking last week her nostrils flared up really big and I know that's usually a pretty big sign of attraction. She also has been coming up to me when we are both on a break and sitting and talking.
For me it's hard to ignore girls, when they text me I usually reply back within 5 minutes every time. I've been trying to ignore them or at least make them wait a bit but I always have my phone and just feel like waiting isn't necessary. But I guess typing this out and reading some threads makes me realize that if I'm "always there" they will eventually get bored and take me for granted.
So if I am going to start ignoring these girls or making them wait, how long is long enough? There is one other (older) woman who I routinely ignore and she still texts me from time to time. I have no issues ignoring people in theory but I just figure why waste time, if something is going to happen, let's do it. But the more I think about it, the more I think I'm very wrong. Help!