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Hey guys. This is my first thread. I was having a conversation with a very attractive woman on POF. I will admit I am not an expert on Online Game but I stubbornly keep trying. This is how the conversation went and although I have an idea of what to do next, I figured I would give this to you guys to look through and give me a 2nd opinion. Have fun.

Me: Omg are you serious. Ok I just got this intuition about you. But first I'll ask, as an Italian woman do you know how to dance to Spanish music? And try not to botch this hun
Her: Reggaeton yes
Me: Ooooo close. No salsa huh. I love dancing. I would probably make it my 2nd career if I wasn't trying to be a programmer.
Her: Lol awww nope
Me:Ugh what am I gonna do with you. Ok Kristie your first impression could be better. I will help you though. Tell me 3 things about you that make you unique. But it can't be anything physical. I can see your pix just fine so don't go there
Her: Lol lets see I'm pretty blunt straight as they could I rather hurt someone feels and tell how it is 2nd I'm fun bubbly person I work hard n I party harder lol mmmmm last but not least I'm caring n care bout alot of things even if I wouldn't get that in return I pay it foward lol
Me: I had an ex who would rather spare someone's feelings than to tell them the truth. After some time it bugged me because it would end up hurting someone's feelings anyways in some way. So you're a big time giver huh. I admire that. But that must mean you get walked all over alot.
Her:Lmao not even love trust me with my attuide nah
Me:You're attitude? So you're caring, but don't put up with s#@t. Ah man I think I found a fire and ice woman. Ugh what did I get myself into lol
Her: Lmao haha yea u did
Me: Yea I know your type You say you don't like the drama but you always seem surrounded by it without realizing you play a part. I will actually admit I like the drama... Makes you feel alive and the emotions are intense. But I get tired of that routine farely quickly. I couldn't bring a woman like that home to mom though.
Her:Ok wtf if you say so have a good night
Me: Lol ok then Ice. But Fire works better at melting me. It's fun and more passionate and I'd rather see that from you. I adore passion.



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IMO your messaging too long and kinda condescending her. I would avoid talking about ex's especially ones that hurt your feelings and avoid pretending you have worked her all out. It potentially can come across as arrogant. I would be subtly adding mysterious things about yourself to get her asking a few questions back to you. Charm her. Being charming trumps being cocky.


 
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What is IMO? I will definitely consider this option. Although this will be a strange behavior transition without smoothing it over. But there is something about the way she reponded last that I like and I get the feeling I can turn this around farely easily. And yes the messaging is very long. I did this in order to eventually open her up to talking when I finally slow down my talking. Sometimes during initial conversation you are doing most of the talking. So after a two day Freeze Out what do you think is the next step?


 
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IMO = In My Opinion

It's hard to know the next step because she didn't really open up except in describing herself - and really those 'unique' traits she described could be any girl (honest, hard working, caring). 'Describe 3 exotic places you have travelled to that made a deep impression on you' or 'what unique clothes/shoes do wear that personifies your attitude', 'what are your favourite color panties' are questions that reveal more detail to weave back into a conversation. Maybe the initial dancing question could have been expanded. You have something more tactile and detailed to work with. It's ok if you do most of the talking to start with but I personally would avoid being condescending and cocky so soon until you have something deeper in conversation to tease her about. It can come across as jouvenile if you start patronising a girl straight off the bat without really knowing her. Perhaps wait for her to say something more personal or clumsy and then use that back against her.

If you start with some witty and charming recon questions or games it can a) give her the impression you don't waste time with anyone until you know more about them and b) will give you a whole sliver of hook points for your conversation. Continue your course but show a touch of chivalry - that you can be blunt but also have a caring side.

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What is IMO? I will definitely consider this option. Although this will be a strange behavior transition without smoothing it over. But there is something about the way she reponded last that I like and I get the feeling I can turn this around farely easily. And yes the messaging is very long. I did this in order to eventually open her up to talking when I finally slow down my talking. Sometimes during initial conversation you are doing most of the talking. So after a two day Freeze Out what do you think is the next step?


 
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Good advice. This online stuff interests me because of the lack of physical presence and I would like to get a better handle on it. I will try to come in softer after the Freeze Out and see how that works. I will also talk less to see how I can get her to invest. Any additional opinions to get her to invest in the conversation?


 
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I think if you shorten the messages and say things that will make her curious she should start initiating more. It has to be fun for her too and she has to feel comfortable in asking you questions. You don't have to hand over the reins but let her ride the horse. You will get an idea how responsive she is from how quickly she writes back usually.


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