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    JohnBentley is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need help starting out

    Hi my name is John Bentley and I need help starting out my pua experience. I am 21 years old and live in California I came here because I want some help. I didn't come here to just pickup random chicks but to improve my social life, to meet new people, to be able to feel comfortable going out on a daily basis.

    So if you could help me start out, maybe give me an example on how you started out and how you became a pua specialist. These problems are from early childhood traumatic experiences Was a very painful childhood and Ive been slowly recovering from it.

    Weaknesses:
    -Social anxiety disorder
    -Don't have prescripted materials
    -Gesturing
    -To introverted
    -Shy
    -Fear of rejection
    -Not knowing what to say or how to say it
    -Don't know how to open myself up

    Strengths
    -Patient
    -Good listener
    -Good at opening people up
    -Willingness to keep going
    -Outstanding willpower
    -Very spiritual
    -Healthy

    My biggest weakness is my Social Anxiety Disorder and I tend to panic when in alot of social situations and freeze up and don't know what to say. I wish to rid myself of any anxiety when im meeting people.

    The next is Storytelling and gesturing although I have been improving Im starting to think I should script out story's and gesturing in a mirror any suggesting here would be great.

    For my strengths I am patient and persistent til I reach the goal I desire, I am good at listening picking up everything they give me and then using information about them to open up. I spend a lot of my time working on occult matters such as yoga, breathing techniques, meditations, spells and things of that nature.

    If you have any advice id gladly appreciate it and I once heard "You must give in order to receive" So if anybody needs help spiritually, I would gladly help you out and show you many secrets about this world if you would wish

    So in conclusion I am looking to work on my weaknesses, start going out on a regular basis to meet chicks, and make friends. If you have any advice at all I would greatly appreciate it thanks.

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    Jux is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help starting out

    Listen bro, everyone has been where you are, at some point in their lives, so don't feel alone, granted, not everyone has the amount of issues you seem to have, and I'm not saying that to be mean to you, just going off of your list.

    For starters, try not to be so rigid in thinking about "the game". They are not set laws, just guidelines to follow. If you try to force things, it will come across just like that..."forced". That's why I don't believe in routines.

    Each woman needs a approach tailored to her. You gotta be willing to adapt to HER needs and desires. You gotta observe and perceive these things, be able to make analysis of minute details that give away something about her.

    For example, I was running this set of sisters...I wanted the older one, but the younger one was into me seriously. I noticed the older one was a lot quieter, reserved...a silent calm. So I asked one day "Are you the older sister...I'm guessing you are, you have the silent strength of an older sibling, a wisdom about your energy" It might seem like just a conversation, but most times that I ask questions or reveal things about myself I'm just doing to gather intelligence on them. Comes from my past life as a stickup kid. Plus that made her open up to me, she was taken by surprise that at age 17 I could notice things like that.

    Also, never be desperate. Look at them all as disposable. If you don't care if you "win", you won't be afraid to approach because there is nothing to lose.

    Listen, feel free to hit me up with any questions you might have. Just have fun and be smooth with it. Forget "game", just try to be smooth at life in general and before long you will be like me. I don't have to worry about Approach Anxiety because I GET approached. It's the energy you give off.

    Hope this helped ya out bro,
    - Johnny Ng AKA Jux

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    Virgil is offline Moderator / PUA All Star
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    Default Re: Need help starting out

    Here is the standard newbie guide.

    I think if you read the alpha male section and the conversation section, and apply those to your life, you will already gain a lot of confidence.

    Not having prescripted materials isn't a problem. You can find those here, or better yet, learn to bike without training wheels straight away. But looking at your situation, nobody will blame you for using scripted material at first.

    Now, I'm guessing you're also afraid to start talking to random women. Here's what I did. If you don't think it's an achievable goal within a decent amount of time, try doing the same using an indirect style.

    Good luck!


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