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    Default Re: How to approach in a Bar

    Quote Originally Posted by Virgil View Post
    I can if you want to, but it's going to be direct. I used to be an expert on indirect theory (not practise) but when I discovered Direct Game I was blown away, only started to read stuff on that, and actually went out there to practise. Never read indirect stuff again apart from forum posts. I decided that since falling into the friend zone and an inability/fear to express my interest were my biggest pitfalls, and direct game eliminates those both efficiently.
    Yeah, I think I need to incorporate direct game into my approach. Since you're offering, I would gladly take any advice on improving my game.

    There's this really hot girl at the local coffee shop i go to, seen her a few times. I noticed she was looking at me, but for some reason she scares the sh1t out of me.

    She's easily a HB9, dresses like a movie star.

    I know I should have approached her, and told her her trenchcoat looks nice, and that I like her sense of style...but this girl makes me weak..

    Edit: For some reason she's always wearing sunglasses. They look pretty big for her face, but it's hot.

    I rambled long enough.. Hah !

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    Default Re: How to approach in a Bar

    Quote Originally Posted by pwonager View Post
    Yeah, I think I need to incorporate Direct Game into my approach. Since you're offering, I would gladly take any advice on improving my game.

    There's this really hot girl at the local coffee shop i go to, seen her a few times. I noticed she was looking at me, but for some reason she scares the sh1t out of me.

    She's easily a HB9, dresses like a movie star.

    I know I should have approached her, and told her her trenchcoat looks nice, and that I like her sense of style...but this girl makes me weak..

    Edit: For some reason she's always wearing sunglasses. They look pretty big for her face, but it's hot.

    I rambled long enough.. Hah !
    Direct game takes absolute confidence. You can't send out any weakness while doing so. Before moving in on your target, go to a shopping mall and approach a couple of girls you genuinely thing look beautiful/sexy/hot.

    When you approach them and they're moving, stand in front of them with your hands out a little like you're trying to stop a car. Be an object right in front of her she can't pass with one step to the side and say 'hi'. This will get her attention.

    Continue with 'I saw you walking, and I think you look (your honest opinion), so I had to come over and meet you. I'm pwonager.' Then start the conversation.

    Remember that in direct game, honesty is very important. You can just tell her you're there to talk to women and see if you can find anyone new you'd like to date. However, do not say 'I like you'. That gives her control.

    Even more important than honesty is your confidence. Look her straight in the eye, smile, use a low toned voice, stand up straight and don't keep your hands in front of you.

    The fact you walk up to her and just flat out tell her you think she looks sexy or whatever shows a lot of balls and therefore creates instant attraction. Some direct gamers skip the attraction stage all together because the opener generates a lot of it and you'll generate some more while talking to her.

    When closing, you can just tell her that you'd 'like to take her on a date to XX at YY tomorrow evening to get drinks.' Be in control and set a time and place. Don't ask her if she'd like to go out, tell her you'd like to take her out.

    As you know, I'm at the opening and introducing stage, but moving on. That's why I haven't written the next journal yet - I want to try and go all the way to closing a couple of times first. We'll both get there soon enough.

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    Default Re: How to approach in a Bar

    I guess I'm alittle late to this thread lol. But I will tell you my experience with night game.

    It is essentially a different world than day game, but definitely with some similarities. During the day Direct Game can work a bit more than during the night. If you see a woman dressed up then you know she took the time to look good, why? Because she knows there will be drunk men using direct game on her the whole night. Alcohol really is the "liquid courage" so you may even notice men making sexual remarks to her. So Indirect Game is usually the best route during the night. However the trick is making it as smooth and casual as possible.

    The biggest thing you want to do is make sure you are having fun!! Maybe even go as far as having more fun than anyone in the room. And don't just engage women, engage the men to. Just make friends with anyone and everyone. Social proof really does help. If you get to a point where you basically "own the place" and are on "top of the world" and people notice, then direct game will work much better during this time.

    If however you are just having a casual night with nothing too crazy then you still want to have a good, fun energy and try to have as much as possible. Approach indirectly by ordering a drink next to someone you want to talk to, turn your head and mention something situational without expectation. When walking to the restroom, open someone then walk away. I should note that it is very possible to open someone then come back to them later for longer conversation. This turns it into a kind of semi-warm approach since they know you are social, but not needy since you walked away to talk to someone else. And also prepares them to be more in a social mindset when you come back to them if they were alittle distant at first. These are a few tips that has helped me greatly during the night. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: How to approach in a Bar

    Virgil,and BatMan thanks for all the great advice. I really have to work on my direct approach game. I haven't had any day game up until now.


    I really didn't know there was a difference between day, and night game. You guys are awesome, and I'm happy to learn.


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