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    Default How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    We've all talked to them. These women that seem to not invest in a conversation. The phrase "pulling teeth" usually comes to mind after you realize you are doing all the talking. The balance gets way out of wack and you are just not sure how to run your game with someone that isn't investing other than giving her a bunch of IOD's about her behavior which may or may not work.

    Generally it's a good idea to ask questions to get her talking (investing). However the dangers are much higher for the "interview" trap and conveying too much interest on your part with a woman who isn't budging. So you want to avoid yes or no questions and ask more open ended. Easier said than done, apparently, to come up with some really thought provoking questions other than "What do you do for fun?"

    After browsing a few sites I came across some of the more interesting questions I thought could be used with a woman that just isn't budging too much. My only suggestion is to try and spread these out and only use about 3-4 MAX!! It should be easy to branch off into your own threads after these questions. Also make sure to take the opportunity to tease her answers a little bit to get her to lighten up even more. Remember, being interested is interesting. Let me know what you guys think.

    Do you have any regrets in life?
    Which is a stronger emotion: anger or love?
    Can insanity bring on more creativity?
    What is your quirkiest habit and how long have you had it?
    What is your happiest/saddest memory.
    Why is it so hard to let go? To go with the flow and not be in control of everything.
    At what point are we good enough? When are we self-improved enough to accept ourselves?
    What impact are you wanting to leave on the world?
    What are the three "nevers" of your life?
    If they were president, what would you do?
    What is your biggest best dream here and now?
    If you had the opportunity to get message across to a large group of people, what would your message be?
    How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
    When is it time to stop calculating and just do what you know is right?
    Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength?
    When was the last time you tried something new?
    If you could do it all over again, would you change anything?
    What is the difference between living and existing?
    If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
    Time or money?
    If you were to be famous what would you like to be known for?
    If you won the lottery what would you change about your life?

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    firs of all nice post m8 , there are a lot of good one's but there are others which if she is not interested, she would still 1 word answer you.. like :"If you had to teach something, what would you teach?" - if shes a bit interested, she would say, "X, because.." if she not interested she would say "X".. i also dont think that many of these are good for night/club game(or am i mistaking)?

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    Good work, BatMan. These are hella good.
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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    Yea I believe these are more for isolating, online, and day game. Yes some of them are one worded. I guess save those for when you know she's invested in the convo.

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    Good work, BatMan. These are hella good.
    Man that quote you have it's the secret to be a pua. Very inspirating

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    I like them, they are far enough out of the norm that they could pique their interest. As you mentioned, you do run the risk of falling into the interview trap, but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. Ran into a girl like you mentioned a couple of months back when a buddy wanted to talk to her friend. I have a girlfriend so I wasn't really paying too much attention to the friend but was trying to come up with stuff to talk about so my buddy could talk to the friend. Turned out the only thing she really wanted to talk about was how silly our friends looked trying to flirt. And to be fair...it was really funny to watch. If I'd thought of anything on your list I think it would have been a more pleasant 15 minutes. I'll remember some of them for the next time I'm winging for a single friend.

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    Thanks. They seem to open up alot after using just one or two and even start asking their own questions. They really like the anger vs love question lol. I'd like your input on my recent post Low Self Esteem.

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    BatMan this post is wonderful.
    Thank you.

    Should I practice these questions and visualize different scenarios in my mind before I hit the field?

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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    Fantastic, I'm all over this batman!!

    I do however think you need a few over factors for them to work a) an itelligent girl that has at least some depth to her soul and b)you need the ability to add a thoughful and engaging come back to her reply.

    For example if you ask the HB "If you were president what would you do?" and she replied "Concentrate on curing cancer" you should respond with something like "I agree, my uncle was in love with a girl but he never told her, they were good friends but he never told her how he felt because he was afriad of rejection. Then the day before she passed she said to him: You know Danny I want to hear you tell me you love just once so I can say it back, once will be enough for me because I've felt it all my life" tell her how powerful the statemtent moved you and now your mantra is to never live a life afraid of emotion. I'll be amazed if she doesn't lean in and open up!
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    Default Re: How To Engage Her And Get Her Talking

    Nice, you should update the list


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