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    Default interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    hey guys,

    So I'm new on here and just thought I'd get your advice and try not to make it too long. I'm 33, good looking, I work out alot so I'm in good shape, kinda muscly. Most people don't even believe I'm 33 when I tell them, I guess I don't look or act my age...not that it really matters anyways. But based on the women I'm around (I'm currently getting my masters in a small college town and I bartend at a college bar) it might be relevant. I meet a lot of girls and don't have problems talking to them, unless they are super hot lol. (Maybe that's part of my problem) Anyway, I know chicks are interested, they even give me numbers once in a while without me asking. I notice looks, body language, ioi's and all that good stuff. Up until a couple months ago I had just stopped trying with chicks for like a year. Now I'm back and feel like a AFC. Before that I never had a problem hooking up with girls because I'd kinda just get drunk and let the animal in me take over. Instinct I guess. There are chicks who I know I could hook up with now, without a doubt, but once I know that I'm not really interested, plus they aren't what I'm really looking for (like 7's). So I guess to ask my question I'll give an example: As I mentioned I work at a bar with tons of hot chicks who come in but even better that work there. One i work with all the time is way younger but seems interested. I just don't know how to get from just flirting a sh1tload at work to bringing her home etc. And there are alot of other opportunities like this, most of whom have boyfriends but they don't really seem to care. I feel like a kid staring through the window of a candy store...everything is within reach I just can't find the door lol. I'd love to hear what you guys think. I'm also re-reading "The Game" just to get that mindset back.

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    Well if you have flirting and attraction figured out then you are probably looking for things like building comfort, rapport, and qualification. Comfort can be pretty easy. Just "get to know her," with some teasing and flirting thrown in there.

    Rapport is a little trickier to pull off, but you don't always need it to bed someone. Still you should familiarize yourself with it so you can use it as a backup plan. Then there's qualification...

    This is a step that can be overlooked a lot. And the ones that understand the importance of it seem to qualify BEFORE she is attracted which is downright risky. This is about increasing your chances, but you can still take risks. It's important to qualify a woman's personality AFTER she is attracted to solidify IN HER MIND the reason why you are interested in her. This increases your chances drastically because she will know you are interested on a much deeper level.

    As a summary, just learn how to make a connection by using the above tools and your chances will increase. There's always a chance that you can get her home without any of these tools, but on here we like to play a solid game of chess with the greatest chances of success. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    Funny, the first few sentences of your post describe me exactly. I have been held back by addictions in the past that kept me a recluse but now I'm out learning this stuff and putting it to use. Like yourself, looks aren't my problem and I get ioi's but there a huge amount of awkwardness trying to move from that to a close. Actually my biggest problem is lack of good conversational skills; I really struggle to avoid the silences.

    From what I read it looks like you're better off than I am and you really just need to pull the trigger. The way you describe your workplace and yourself I'm a little surprised the girls working there haven't been more aggressive towards you. My bro worked at a target-rich environment like that and he didn't even need Game, trust me he's clueless but his coworkers were practically fighting over him and he was choosing which girl to go out with based on his own criteria. Well the one thing he had was a devil-may-care attitude, but it's because he really honestly doesn't give a sh!t lol.

    This younger coworker you mentioned sounds like your primary target and if she isn't already she probably needs to see you drawing a lot of interest from other women and then with that working for you, go for it. Will be interested to know how it goes.

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    @ vhailor haha yeah it is kinda like where I work. But game always helps and it's a great place to practice. I actually did hook up with her last night, just told her to pick me up then we got hammered lol. didn't F-close but it was still cool. It's funny because she felt bad because her roommate liked me (who also works at the same place). Stuff was going great until super early in the morning when she wanted to sleep and i was still amped up on redbull and horniness lol. I feel like I might have pushed to far and I'm not quite sure how to play it from here. I texted her a couple times today, just with some cocky funny stuff but didn't get much of a response. I dunno if it's because the interest is gone, if she feels guilty about her roommate, or maybe she feels sluty, or she could be just super tired. Who knows. I might just do a Freeze Out for a few days until we work together again this weekend.

    @batman. Thanks, that is solid advice and I will work on the things you mentioned. I like how you describe it as a solid game of chess. So true. This stuff really makes you think and anticipate things. Alot of psychology involved too.

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    Hey man, check out these 6 mistakes most guys make when dealing with women, chances are you are making at least one if not more.
    Mistake #1 - Most guys don't understand girl fun.
    Mistake #2 - Most guys struggle to cross the physical gap.
    Mistake #3 - Most guys don't challenge girls.
    Mistake #4 - Most guys are afraid to voice their own opinions.
    Mistake #5 - Most guys are too available.
    Mistake #6 - Most guys don't get sexual.
    I found once I learnt to deal with these mistakes it really helped my game.

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    Hey Dirtymitts,

    Yeah I feel like my biggest mistake is that I make myself too available after I get interested in her which usually isn't at first. Where can I get more info on this stuff?

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    Yea I am having the same problem with a coworker.
    This problem has been eating away at me, for about 3 months now. Prior to that, I didn't even think about it much. All day, every day and into the night, I think of my office girl. Yea its pathetic. I'm 36 years old and I work as an insurance advisor and have to deal with my really flirtatious coworker for a while now. She constantly "tests" me, in fact when she first started to work with us, 7 months ago, she did it right away. I just laughed and thought it was hilarious.

    My boss one day texts me and asks if I would like to have a drink with her. And another text 10 minutes later asking if I was single as she wanted to know. I thought he was just screwing with me, and he ended up confessing that he was. But ever since then her flirtations have gotten more and more consistent. Way more eye contact, LOTS of chemistry, bantering back and forth. I make her laugh all the time. And my attitude still was and to this day, very standoffish. As I am very cautious to date a coworker. Especially if I don't know her that well.

    And every time I look at her, I feel so sure of myself, that I know what she is thinking, how she is testing me and it has no affect on me. Zero. In fact, she asks me to buy her coffee and at first I laughed and said no. But I eventually relented, as I did want to bring her one. And one day, I did it just for a surprise.

    But after telling my friends about her, they all were bugging me to ask her out. I was very hesitant, and eventually just hinted that we should hang out after work. She seemed ok with it, but then actually got off the phone with me real quick after that. I feel so torn, I don't want to date someone at work, if its going to cause drama. (I got warned at my last job, where my supervisor was flirting with me and she told our boss that I made her feel uncomfortable)

    I don't know what to do. I added her by accident on facebook, which she readily accepted. But I now I feel weird.

    Just a week and a half ago, she said that she was very proud of me, and that I am doing better than the other agents in our office. When for the last 6 months, I haven't been doing very well. Her face looked so happy when she was looking at me.

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    Default Re: interest from chicks but can't get to the close

    Don't know man. I haven't been around this girl or you so I can't say for certain, but I can say this. What ever choice you make do it with absolute conviction and do with finality. If you are going to date her do it without hesitation or flip flopping. If your going to choose to cut her loose do it absolutely and just be friends with her.
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