What's up puaforums? SuperDry here.
I'm a complete nub to this whole PUA community and had just started reading books like "The Game" by Neil Strauss. I haven't finished it yet but what I did finish and got me interested in reading a book like "The Game" was another book called "Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test" by Frank B. Kermit.
I started reading these books because I realized that I'm 21, almost 22, and have yet to get a girlfriend. There were times when girls came onto me to be in a relationship, some even offering sexual favors as a means to seal the deal, but I felt like the nice guy that they settled for and denied them of their approach. This brings me into my problem: I'm the nice guy, in company of a moderate amount of women, but I'm almost immediately friend-zoned first.
I've been friends with these girls for quite a while you could say, like years, and at some point after I'm friend-zoned, some of them have claimed to be attracted to me and liked me. Few try to make something of it but I'm no good at returning the effort because I'm the nice guy first and then potential boyfriend out of the blue afterward. My mindsets don't just shift when they confess so abruptly. My guy friends would be praise me for such developments because I somehow become friends with girls easily, but it's not without feeling the loss of my manhood when these girls put me in the "just friends" category from the get-go. I don't want to be a supplicate or if anyone knows it - the "emotional cookie man" even if it's just temporary sometimes.
Right now, I have my eyes on a friend's roommate. I will be visiting them often, along with other girls this summer because this apartment houses five of them. Being the nice guy that was somehow instilled in me, I treat many of the girls I'm around the same way. However, I don't know how to get myself alone with the girl I like. Lucky me, I've had plenty of opportunities to be alone with this girl a few weeks back when I visited her apartment. She's on a quest to achieve physical finesse and I'm her exercise buddy because I'm battling my asthma and skinny physique. We run and play tennis. She's also on a journey of self-discipline, because she's had trouble in her schooling. I compliment her from time to time, but I'm a wreck when trying to tease her. I'd know what to say now, but didn't know what to say then ahaha.
Anyways, I don't want to elaborate anymore specifics in the introduction thread - it's been lengthy. Outside of my current dilemma, I do just want to work on my social handling skills, along with flirting.