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    nickWYL is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default please help with issues of becoming sociable

    HI guys this is my first post. any response would be greatly appreciated.
    I came to Canada about 5 years ago all the way from china. such life change but i just can't grasp and fit in to this society or have any circle of friends. Over the past 5 years i've seem to always be isolated. but i appreciate the solitude and i have a few good friends but we never get together like other white guys. now its summer time and i've just graduated from high school. My hopes were always just graduate from high school and have fun in the summer, and its drives me farking crazy at home! my life is really imbalanced because i've got absolutely zero friends to go out and have fun. nor I'm really a sociable guy, i don't attend parties, or go out with friends. home seems to be very comforting.

    I'm new here to this forum but I'm not new to PUA, I've read everything from David D, neil, mystery, gary brodsky, just for curiosity.

    Going to college in september, it scares the fark out of me because i don't want to go through the high school experience again.I don't drink, smoke, or take drugs,
    but the fact i love my family enough to keep clean for the rest of my life. i think thats probably one of the reason why i can't fit in

    I blame a lot of other things but I think the real problem is me. I'm looking for a change. a first step to becoming much more sociable with people in general. and of course farking every girl that fancy me.

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    Default Re: please help with issues of becoming sociable

    I'm not quite sure what specific help you are asking for, but I did notice that you said that you "can't" fit in. Not to go all Dr Phil on you, but if you think you can't, or you think you can you'll be correct. You don't have to drink, smoke or do drugs in order to be social, you just have to go where people are! You've read a lot so you have knowledge, go out and use it. So, read this post then get the hell outside and go talk to someone, anyone.

    Good luck man.

    P.S. College is not the same as highschool, but one constant is that if you don't put yourself out there people aren't going to just randomly add you to their social circles. Step out of your comfort zone and go to a party or ten

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    Default Re: please help with issues of becoming sociable

    Hey nickWYL,

    I agree with Bumac that you need to get out of your comfort zone. However, I recognise that this is a challenge.

    If you have certain interests, hobbies etc join a club and meet and socialise with like minded people. Take up a Salsa class or something similar, which will help push the comfort zone a little.

    You will need to put in an effort here. E.g. if you go to a club, and get used to some of the familiar people take their number and call to meet up.

    hope this helps
    rs5096

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    nickWYL is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: please help with issues of becoming sociable

    Thank you guys for replying its quite embarrassing dealing in the biggest weakness for me , I'll be spending quite a long time out of the house during college.

    I've always hope that things would change for me. Not anymore

    I've always thought that the reason I couldn't fit in because I'm Chinese, its not even a theory, in high school people belonged to certain group: white, Asian, emo
    I just figured it the lifestyle that grouped them together.

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    Default Re: please help with issues of becoming sociable

    I think joining any club that you have interests in would be the best way to start. You'll find people with the same interests as you and talking about it with each other is a good way to get more social. =]


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