I agree with PUAatmosphere. You need to get over this girl. It's going to be hard but, its just something your going to have to tough out. I think you need to realize that she is not as great as you think she is.

Also, she's married- with a kid. Do you really want to be the guy who drives a wedge in between their family? Come on, PUA versus Player.

Good luck with the other stuff, buddy.