07-15-2012, 03:43 AM
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Halifax, England
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| | 99 Problems - oh actually, no, make that 100 Problems....
Hi, my names RollingStone and a documentary on PUA has just introduced me to this community. It showed how a very awkward guy all of a sudden got comfortable speaking to women. THATS WHAT I WANT TO BE.
Im 28 who has a very good job, and lives in Halifax (West Yorkshire), England.
To be comfortable speaking to very pretty ladies who are out my league as it stands (Im gonna change this starting today), eventually ending up with a really nice girl at the end of this.
1. TOO NICE:
I dont feel I'm aggressive enough. I let other guys come in and start speaking to the girl I want, and then too nice to do anything. Heck, I'm the guy who'll then proceed to get them a drink, and call a taxi for them both to leave!
2. friend zone:
If I do end up speaking to a girl all night, I'll then ruin it by suggesting we go do something nice the next day - which they say yes to. Cool right? NO! As then I continue talking and suggest we ask our other mates come too. Instantly making it all into a friend thing, and thus cementing myself into the FriendZone.
3. SMALL TOWN:
Not a major issue, but Halifax is a tiny town where I know everyone that's worth knowing. Its very cliquey, and most the people I hang around with are either skint and reluctant to venture anywhere than the local. Or with money but in a relationship.
4. BODY HAIR:
I'm fairly slim, and not in too bad a shape, but I have body hair. Quiet a lot of it, and this makes me feel very self conscious about myself. Being of indian heritage, its black thick hair, so its not something I can just trim with clippers without being noticeable. Im also slim, so the whole hairless thing wont work either, I don't think?
I love this woman - but in the friend zone hard. NOTHING WILL EVER HAPPEN, as she's 9 years older than me (37), and she's married (but he's always away), and has a 3 year old girl who she loves to pieces. With a kid involved, it wouldn't be right, but doesn't mean I cant stop thinking about her. I work all day sat next to her. Talk all day, and then we text all the time. Last month I sent her over 1000 text messages, and she sent me over 1000 text messages!! And its the same every month since December! Its not even me who initiates these text messages all the time, sometimes its me, other times its her. Heck, I've already text her this morning several times, and its 9.30 on a Sunday morning! I cant stop thinking about her, and we sort of flirt time to time on text, and are fairly touchy of recent (or is this all in my head). DAMMIT MEL!!
Any initial advice on the above would be greatly appreciated, especially on LOVELY MEL! (and this horrible friend-zone I'm stuck in with several women!)