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    MadRabbit is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Newly single and new to PU

    Hey guys I've been thinking about joining this forum for a while now and I've finally done it.

    I'll start with a bit of my personal background. I was in a relationship for three years with a girl I met when I was 16 and fresh out of high school. It was pretty good for a while. Very relaxed and chilled out. Her family liked me and they were always nice although I can't say mine were too friendly towards her.

    A few months ago I learned that there was such a thing as a PUA. Even though I was in a relationship and I've had a few flings and LTR's in the past I figured that I might as well be better. Long story short I got a little bit crazy and started reading just about anything I could on the subject.

    Last week I decided I'd had enough of my relationship. Not that I hated the girl or anything, just that now I see her as more of a friend than an exciting sexual partner. It took me a while to get the courage to break up with her. I think it was because I was scared of leaving my comfort zone. Three years doesn't just go away, even if the attraction does.

    On the other hand, I've got a bit of a problem. Although me and the girl still chill out like the friends I felt like we were and I'm not even wanting to get her back... I feel kinda lonely. Maybe its just not having someone to cuddle up with on a cold night or whatever but I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping and my appetite has completely died, and I'm already very slim!

    I don't think I'll be having any success at meeting people when I'm in this pervasively negative state. I feel like I can't trust anybody. I sometimes wonder if everyone is just going to betray each other. To try and cut it short, I don't know what to do. Can anybody please take some time to answer this? I know it's a lot of stuff to ask in one go, but I'm just so confused right now.

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    BatMan is offline PUA All Star
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    Default Re: Newly single and new to PU

    Everything you're feeling right now is natural and there really is no shortcut for it. A break up is very similar to the five stages of grief, even if you were the one that did the breaking up. Try to accept any emotions that come your way and learn to cope. Eventually you will pass this and feel fine and ready to get your game on. Nothing wrong with trying to game now, but just understand that it takes time to get over a break up and to incorporate everything you're learning right now. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    MadRabbit is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Newly single and new to PU

    Thanks for the advice. It feels better to look at it as something I should be accepting rather than blaming myself for because it was me that did it. I guess I'll just have to let nature take its course in a way and grow with it.

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    Default Re: Newly single and new to PU

    Hey Mad Rabbit,
    As Batman said above, everything you are feeling is normal. You have been in this comfort for the last 3 years, and as you read all these books you are starting to realize that there is so much more then you can get out of life. I believe the most magical moments in life happen when a person is out of their comfort zone. In regards to loneliness and trouble sleeping, this too shall pass as time goes by. This is just a normal part of breaking up. In a couple months when you start gaming other women, and you will look back and be glad that you broke up. I wish you the best of luck man in all your endeavors.
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