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    Brix78 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Thumbs up New fella in town dont move over just yet

    Hi people,

    I'm new to all this!

    Something that's been bugging me for years is I'm told by people in person and online I'm good looking or not bad looking, well not a model, I think around average. Sometimes I think yeah not bad lol sometimes not. I get no response to anyone online apart from a few that I wouldn't go for!

    Anyway if this is true why do i get next to nothing! lol I lol but this ain't funny. years ago I'd fluke some OK looking girls.

    Anyways I'm here to change that..

    I'm sticking on a problem (when i know where to post it) I have at the moment if u can help I'd love it.

    Anyway hopefully this will be a sweet place to hang out!

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    Default Re: New fella in town dont move over just yet

    I'm not going to say that looks don't matter, but I definitely don't think they are the most important part in attracting women. I have a friend who seriously looks like a celebrity impersonator, but he's been struggling with getting the gals. For him it's a lack of confidence in his own abilities.

    Online Game is a unique animal, so you'd have to talk about what you've been trying so far. It might be helpful to get a friend or two to look over you dating profile. Then you need to start looking at what you are saying in your messages and how soon you are asking to meet up. Lots of variables.

    Meeting gals in person without enough confidence can be a challenge, so sometimes changing up the style or getting a different hair cut is all it takes. I've found that Inner Game really projects out and gals pick up on that stuff. Also, if you believe that you look like a model, you are going to be seeing IOIs and moving forward with your targets instead of getting nervous.

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    Default Re: New fella in town dont move over just yet

    In regards to online dating, I'd like to say I've had pretty good success. That is not to say that I've met many of the woman from those sites in person. The reason being that I just haven't made the time to. However, I managed to Number Close 4 times in one week on okcupid as well as get my friend to number close 2 women. So here's my advice. Always use catchy openers. Here is what I usually use. "You look like trouble. " That one works extremely well. Another one is "I read your profile and noticed you were like a 75% match. Not so sure you can handle the other 25%". If you end up getting a response do not make the conversation a formal one. Keep role playing until they make it serious. When the conversation gets serious still throw in a few jokes and teases here and there. Hope this helps.

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    Default Re: New fella in town dont move over just yet

    Definitely make sure your profile is different than what every other schmuck. Make it interesting & fun... make it humorous.
    Have pictures that are congruent with your profile, showing you in different scenarios having fun.

    That's the first point.

    Second thing is, your initial contact email needs to stand out when you message a girl. Most guys write stuff like, "Hi" or " how are you?" or "Hey beautiful"... Those = instant delete.

    So do the ones that say something like, "I'd really like to get to know you, so message me back if you're interested".
    BORING!

    Find a unique thing in her profile to use in your message. Be playful & funny. Make comments about how her eyes look like she's got a devilish side, or a bit of a spunky / sassy attitude.

    Compliment her for using proper grammar, & spelling (if she actually does).
    Tell her the way she WROTE her profile caught your attention & that she seems more interesting, or funny, or intelligent than most of the girls on the site.

    Those type of compliments go a LONG way.
    Here's a message I got from a girl who is actually a Journalist/writer (and I would consider an 8.5 or 9): "Your messages opened a door that few people walk through. You should get like a badge for that or something! I mean it as a compliment to!! "

    THEN... I knew it was time to let her know I'm interested & find her attractive enough to escalate.
    I waited until after we had been messaging & texting for a couple days & finally said, Ya know, I just looked at your profile & photos again..... & you're like, really kinda' cute & stuff. "

    Instead of dismissing the compliment as some chump hitting on her, she genuinely appreciated it at this point.

    Why? Because, she was wondering if I was attracted to her at all, or if she was going to end up in MY friend zone.
    But when I called her "kinda cute" it showed her that I AM attracted, but also that she was qualified to have my attention. (Also note that, "kinda cute" isn't what most hot girls are told. This demonstrated that I'm not affected by her looks, because I'm used to being around attractive women; thus increasing my value in her subconscious mind.)



    So again, the main thing is: be different!
    Ask yourself WWACD? (What Would A Chump Do?") Then do the opposite.

    It takes a little practice, but you can improve quickly!


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    Default Re: New fella in town dont move over just yet

    Those are some great insights, tmalonetn. I've definitely had more success since switching to catchy one or two sentence openers. I also don't spend that much time looking over any given profile before deciding whether or not to write the gal. I used to read over her list of favorite books and all of the random details.

    Now I go straight to her picture. If I like the pictures, I'll skim over the random info to find any instant deal breakers. If she's still got my interest, I'll skim the profile again this time looking for something to reference in a catchy message.

    Recently I opened by commenting about a picture of her with a lobster. I think I said something like, "Cool, that you have a pet lobster. What's his name?" Obviously a bit of an off-beat joke. She wrote me back, meaning my profile pictures and descriptions met her standards. However, her second message revealed one of the instant deal-breakers, so very little time invested before moving along to the next profile.

    It's worth adding that you need to think about what parts of your personality you want to emphasize. Currently my profile makes me look like a well-traveled intellectual who likes to salsa dance. I'm realizing that if I'm going to find someone who enjoys going out to the night clubs dancing it'll probably be to my advantage to change that around.


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