First of all, hi I just learned about this vast awesome world of things recently. I can't believe I've never come across this until now... now some background:
I've always been quiet/shy/withdrawn, supposedly from having a less than ideal childhood. However I don't let that stop me from anything, it could have been a lot worse. But most of my life I've had to deal with low self-image, remnants of nasty events, which is easily the hardest challenge I've ever had. I used to have a very negative view of myself, but friends have helped to point out that my own head tries to trick me, and has been my worst enemy. The power of positive thought is amazing to say the least. Moving forward though, I still have work to do.
I really don't want this to sound like I'm tooting my own horn with this, just trying to help the reader understand where I'm coming from. I'm a tall, dark, handsome guy with neat blue/green color-changing eyes. This is all great, except it's enabled me to continue to be my quiet shy self. In my life I've never really chased or approached or initiated anything with women. They've always come to me. You could say I'm lucky, but in a sense I'm unlucky because I never developed the skills to actually get anything started when *I* wanted to. I've always been able to just hang out and troll for girls. Sometimes it works, most of the time it doesn't, and it's a constant reminder that something is missing and that this isn't the right way. So stumbling onto this forum/site has shown me what that right way(s) is/are. Maybe with some adjustments I can remedy this and take full advantage of the rest of my twenties
I want to say thanks for the articles and threads I've read so far. It's definitely opened my eyes to some of my downfalls, but also reinforced a lot of my habits which I am only now realizing are characteristic of what is known here as an 'alpha male'.. and thanks for that too! I could have gone my whole life not knowing that a lot of what I do unconsciously is what girls are apparently looking for. Now if only I can figure out how to approach and chat them up! it only gets better from here