Hey everyone, I'm Lex, a 26-year-old New Yorker. I moved to NYC from upstate NY about 6 months ago and I've figured that being in a big city filled with beautiful women would be like a buffet for me. But something is amiss, and my luck with women is getting worse and worse. Last night a friend and I struck out hardcore at a bar, and it lead me to seek some help from you fine fellows.
For pretty much all my life I've been the typical beta male. Growing up I was more into heavy metal, punk rock, comic books, sci-fi, and Magic: The Gathering than I was into women or partying or really being social. I had a small group of friends and we all kept to ourselves. I was really shy, and when I hit college I made the decision to come out of my shell. I began partying and socializing, and even though I was (And still am) into nerdy things, I learned to better socialize with people and not be an awkward nerd.
But I still had trouble with women. I was raised by a single mother from the age of 14 on, and I inevitably became the stereotypical nice guy. But somehow I managed to get with some of the hottest girls I've ever been with. I became the male best friend of this amazingly beautiful girl freshman year of college. I figured the friend zone was better than nothing, until one day we were in her dorm room and she just leaned over and kissed me. I ended up losing my virginity to her, and doing a steady FWB situation for a few months. The next girl I was with was as beautiful as the first one. After college I began my longest relationship with a girl that lasted 2 years. She was really cute, but ever since we broke up it seems like every girl I've been with is just getting uglier and uglier.
After breaking up with my ex I had a bit of a crisis, and I decided to change my life around. I was really out of shape and wasn't taking care of myself, so I began running and shed 30 pounds in 6 months. I also worked on getting a new wardrobe. I was looking better and in better shape than I had ever been in my entire life. And for a while I was able to get girls' numbers and hook up with girls pretty easily.
But the problem was I could only get so far with girls. If a girl gave me her number I'd get in touch, only to have it not returned, or in the event she did respond, she'd act like a bitch or just keep me around as a texting buddy. A lot of times if I'm out and I meet a girl and get along well with her, somewhere along the way she just gets turned off and goes off somewhere else. Basically, I can only take things to a certain point before it falls apart.
Since moving to NYC, I've had worse and worse luck with women. I can't understand it, either, I'm the best looking and most confident and social I've ever been. There must be something I'm doing that's turning them off. I'd say I'm about a 7, and so far I can't really get any interest from any girl higher than a 5. I'm on OKCupid, and as time goes on my luck gets worse and worse, to the point where this weekend I was chatting with a chick and she invited me over to her place. I tried to do some dirty talk, and she got offended because she didn't want to fark me. This girl was maybe a solid 4, and it just shocked me that I was put down by this troll.
So long story short - I'm new to NYC, and my luck with women is getting worse and worse, even though I've been working hard to improve my overall life. I'm looking forward to finding some tips for my problems, and try to get hotter, higher-quality women.