Hi guys, i'm a new member and I need some advice, related to this subject, I have posted this on a site too but I just need to hear some words of wisdom. I know I've been a wuss!
I started seeing this girl a few months ago, who was introduced through a friend and it was amazing; the dates went brilliantly she was really getting into it and she came back to mine after the second date. She was adamant that she didn't want to do anything though and only cam back because she couldn't get home; so we didn't.
In addition to this I knew she'd been on some terrible internet dates with another guy and said how bad he'd been on them, i didn't think anything of it at the time.
We then went on a two more dates before the inevitable happened and she came back to mine again and we finally had sex. She text me after and said she had an amazing time and was sorry she had to leave early the next day. We went on a few more dates, but the final time she wouldn't come back with me. After that she then texted me and said 'I think we should just be friends, I'm not feeling the spark' even though we get on amazingly. I didn't reply at first and then she sent another text saying 'please don't hate me.'
I stupidly replied and we started texting each other again and this went on for another month - but she said she couldn't meet up because of work (she works in tv production so it was always difficult to see her anyway).
Finally we met up again a week ago and it was great just like old times, we had an awesome date and everything was going really well, so i kissed her towards the end of the night. At first she pulled away but then when I went in again, we really got going and she was enjoying it. She then said she was really confused and started going on about how she didn't know what she wanted and how she hasn't been in a relationship for 8 years and is scared. I started saying what have we got to lose and when don't we just give it a go (another mistake I know)? We went our seperate ways that evening and kissed again before we parted. I waited for a few days before sending her a message asking whether she wanted to meet up at the weekend and got no response. i wanted for a bit longer before sending another one saying that i didn't want to give up unless she wanted me to because i really thought there could be something there.
She then replied with a really cold message just saying that she still wanted to be friends and didn't know what she was doing. She then said she was now seeing someone else and she didn't know whether she had made the right decision but felt she had to go with it. I stupidly got stressed and wrote back an angry response saying why had she kissed me then and got me to meet up with her, and also i hoped it wasn't the guy from the dates (again a mistake)! I regreted it but it was how I was feeling at the time. I sent another message saying how i thought she was just running away from stuff and how great we were. And then a final message just apologising and saying I never meant to be mean but I can't just be friends. (I know for a fact through our mutual friend that she is seeing that guy from the dates, but it is very early days and my friend seems to think it might not last -she was taking the piss out of him regularly when they spoke).
I then cut it off; deleted her number and Facebook profile and have not been in contact since (over a week). I've also had no replies.
I realise in hindsight that i never should have texted back when she initially said about being friends, at least i would be over it by now if nothing else.
But is it too late now, am I forever in the friendzone with this girl, or is it completely over? Do you think by cutting myself off now she may become curious and get in contact later. I want to give it another go but i realise that i have made myself seem too needy and it might not ever happen now.
Any advice would be great guys, she's really torn me up.