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    Default Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    I came onto these forums because ever since my first girlfriend, which I dated for two years, broke up with me in April, I've been very sad and it changed my outlook on relationships.

    When I was dating her, I never wanted it to end, I only wanted her forever and only her. Now I get angry thinking about her and how she threw me away like garbage and I never want to think like that again. I don't want ridiculously long-lasting relationships. I want to have girlfriends that I date for a maximum of three months or so, and when I'm older in college and beyond, decrease that length. My ex changed everything I want in a relationship.

    I've tried to get new a girlfriend ever since then and it hasn't worked out. Girls that are, in my opinion, out of my league of course didn't work. Two girls that are a little above my league didn't work, even though one made out with me one day and the next week stopped liking me, then finally one girl that was in my league could have happened but as she goes to a different school, I started thinking I wanted to date someone from mine.

    I jokingly say I have the [my last name] Curse because I just can't seem to get a girl.

    I have Approach Anxiety to girls that I've never talked to or have barely talked to because of the simple fact that I haven't talked to them that much, so they are probably wondering why someone like me is talking to them. That's how I see it. I have very bad anxiety disorder when I actually start to like a girl and we see each other, I freeze up and have nothing to talk about and that's what probably ruined me with one of the girls that was out of my league.

    I came to these forums to change all of this. I would even greatly appreciate being able to actually go up to a girl that I don't really know and get her number. I would love to be able to see them in person and actually be able to talk. The hot girl I mentioned earlier didn't order anything at the restaurant when we went with our church and it literally took EVERYTHING I had to say "You didn't order anything Kalyn?". I hate it so much. But as of this moment, since I'm not chasing her, if I see her at school I probably wouldn't have a problem talking to her. It's only when I'm chasing a girl or crushing on a girl that I have this huge problem.

    But as I said, I hope these forums help me be able to become friends with cute girls, be able to continually talk to them in person, and eventually once I feel comfortable with the previous goals, start asking girls out and having a great time. I can tell these forums are soon going to change my life and I thank you all beforehand.

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    I feel for you when it comes to problems with girls you are chasing or have a crush on. I recently bombed what could have been a good relationship. My advice to you is to avoid placing these women on pedestals. They arent better than you in any way, shape, or form. Dont forget who you are when it comes to seducing them. Dont be too nice it comes off as manipulative and needy, dont be too vulnerable otherwise the baggage will chase her away. Be Confident! Charismatic and charming you can never go wrong with these traits.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    Quote Originally Posted by pua_wannabe View Post
    I feel for you when it comes to problems with girls you are chasing or have a crush on. I recently bombed what could have been a good relationship. My advice to you is to avoid placing these women on pedestals. They arent better than you in any way, shape, or form. Dont forget who you are when it comes to seducing them. Dont be too nice it comes off as manipulative and needy, dont be too vulnerable otherwise the baggage will chase her away. Be Confident! Charismatic and charming you can never go wrong with these traits.
    Couldn't have said it better myself.

    I also recently messed up a relationship by getting too attached too quickly. I was catatonically depressed, and was on the verge of suicidal for a while.
    Months of therapy comforted me, but it wasn't till I started learning the world of PUA that I truly regained my self confidence.

    I then discovered this world of pickup, read books, and listened to seminars on my iPhone religiously, and what do you know, my ex (who I hoped I'd never see again) is now squirming and frustrated trying to get be back, texting me endlessly, always has her eyes glued on me gaming other females in class, all because I adopted the above values.

    YOU are the man. You are alpha, and thus, YOU control the situations.

    Do not put ANY woman on a pedestal, but rather, (I don't like this word, but) manipulate the situation so that they put YOU on a pedestal.

    Confidence, charisma, and charm are so sexy, and the better you get at game, the more they'll naturally start showing themselves in you.

    Just try and remember, there are far too many women out there to get stuck in one's hamster wheel. Try gaming every one you're attracted to, if you strike out, reflect and apply what you learn here to LEARN Why. That is what will make you a master PUA. <-My .02

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    I honestly feel for you man... And in this game we are in i can probably speak for all of us when i say that we understand what that feels like...

    I have only recently been introduced to this world, i began a search for something different because i too have sufferred too much over a certain someone and no matter what ive tried over the course of the last 4 years i cant win... This certain woman in my life comes and goes into my life as she pleases and ive had it.

    This game is the reality of the female persepctive.. And its our job to master it.

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    Crisis1020 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    How long you been at this kidinistra?

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    Thanks for all the posts. I am starting to think in a positive Mindset, not caring what girls think (or so I think I think that), and thinking about my posture in class and how I walk and how I sit.

    I haven't tried to game on a girl since I joined this site this week because I want to get all the information I can before I start trying.

    I have trouble showing or having confidence and charm and charisma, or so I think, and I can't at all see myself being charmful to a hot girl. I don't know what to do :/

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    After enough practice all of it will fall into place. Learn to relax, speak slowly and lean back, smile and eye contact(this stuff will say tons about you) Great job on your Mindset, Keep at it!
    Last edited by pua_wannabe; 09-12-2012 at 09:54 PM. Reason: Addition
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    Quote Originally Posted by Crisis1020 View Post
    How long you been at this kidinistra?
    Only a few months (after I realized therapy was doing nothing and the only way out of the vicious circle was to grab the reigns).

    I'm still a novice by a large measure, I simply have a very addictive personality, and as a result of the pain I've experienced, game is my new fix.

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    kidsinatra is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    Quote Originally Posted by Michael3710 View Post
    Thanks for all the posts. I am starting to think in a positive Mindset, not caring what girls think (or so I think I think that), and thinking about my posture in class and how I walk and how I sit.

    I haven't tried to game on a girl since I joined this site this week because I want to get all the information I can before I start trying.

    I have trouble showing or having confidence and charm and charisma, or so I think, and I can't at all see myself being charmful to a hot girl. I don't know what to do :/
    As I'm not an expert, I don't want to say I know the exact remedy for your situations (this is my very own lack of self confidence coming out), so I'll go into it as an explanation of insight on my own experiences of the same emotions.

    Quote Originally Posted by Michael3710 View Post
    I am starting to think in a positive mindset, not caring what girls think (or so I think I think that)
    Maintaining the positive mindset is key. Positivity will show subconsciously through your actions, tone, body language, etc... I myself fight a daily struggle to maintain a positive mindset. Just keep pushing through and think about the good things you have going for you. (having knowledge and access to this killer community)

    Quote Originally Posted by Michael3710 View Post
    I haven't tried to game on a girl since I joined this site this week because I want to get all the information I can before I start trying.
    I was in this boat for a long time, and it wasn't because I "wanted to get all the information in before I gave it a shot". I told myself that, but it was actually because of Approach Anxiety, combined with lack of self confidence.

    I lightly game when the situation seems easy enough to do so (she throws me ioi's to begin with), but this is still something I myself have to work on.

    This is what worked for ME, I truly hope some of this helps you out a bit.

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    Default Re: Hey, I'm Michael and I want help

    Quote Originally Posted by kidsinatra View Post
    As I'm not an expert, I don't want to say I know the exact remedy for your situations (this is my very own lack of self confidence coming out), so I'll go into it as an explanation of insight on my own experiences of the same emotions.


    Maintaining the positive Mindset is key. Positivity will show subconsciously through your actions, tone, body language, etc... I myself fight a daily struggle to maintain a positive mindset. Just keep pushing through and think about the good things you have going for you. (having knowledge and access to this killer community)


    I was in this boat for a long time, and it wasn't because I "wanted to get all the information in before I gave it a shot". I told myself that, but it was actually because of Approach Anxiety, combined with lack of self confidence.

    I lightly game when the situation seems easy enough to do so (she throws me ioi's to begin with), but this is still something I myself have to work on.

    This is what worked for ME, I truly hope some of this helps you out a bit.
    Thanks for the advice. I will give it thought, and yeah it might be actually my approach anxiety, but who knows.


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