Hey all great to be a part of the forum now. Figured I would shed a little background. I'm a 21 year old college guy. Well since the breakup with my last ex about 2 years ago, my luck with women has sort of run into a halt. I had a couple girlfriends through high school that were long term, had some random hookups through then, but nothing crazy. Dated this last girl into my sophomore year of college and now broken up. I've gotten numbers, had a couple hookups, but far from where I should be at this stage in my life, mainly because none of my friends went to college and I never got to the opportunity to go out like I want and enjoy the college experience. I'm far from being a cocky, stuck on himself guy, but I have been weightlifting for a solid 5 years now and honestly most would consider me "built", and or shredded. Don't consider myself a bad looking guy by any means(but hey what guys would?).
Well the issue lies in that 1. every one of my friends has girlfriends now, this entails a good 10 or 12 close friends, so no one ever wants to go out. and 2. I can't seem to keep a good Mindset whenever I do go out and get in the zone and actually approach women. The thing the bothers me the most is that every now and then I get my feel good moments and can approach women no problem, get a number, and possibly bring them back home. I've never been turned down when I have actually done this, but I can't seem to do it consistently because of what I guess is a fear of possible rejection, and/or not knowing the right things to say(really can't seem to grasp why I cant to be honest). It's literally like I can go out with the idea of talking and approaching women, but when the time actually comes it's like my mind goes on freeze and just can't do it. I get stares constantly when I go out, I know that women see me, but in the back of my mind I'm like "nah, its nothing". This is really taking a toll on me mentally because I'm tired of not having women in my life, especially when I continually pass on opportunities that I see and do nothing about. Not sure if this is some underlying self esteem issues I have or what the reason may be, but I hope that ya'll on this forum can guide me in the right direction and give me the tips I need to be successful with meeting women whether it be from school, at the store, or a coffee shop. Sorry if this isn't the right place for this thread, but any tips of advice would greatly appreciated, I HAVE to get this mindset gone and get into a new me.
Since most of my friends don't ever want to do anything, I'm trying to get comfortable doing more things on my own, which I feel can relay to a women "loserness" or things of the like. I don't mind doing things alone every now and then, but feel like its much harder to meet women this way. Just want advice on how to meet girls regardless of location.
I've currently been on a couple dating sites now, but honestly have no desire to even meet women through those, much rather be a face to face meet.
EDIT: I have actually read through Vin Dicarlo's the Attraction Code a couple times now and completely understand what's going on, but can't seem to follow through.