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Thread: Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

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    Default Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

    Hello!

    I've been struggling with women and relationships all my life. In fact, I just got divorced early this year after a 4 year marriage, and previously had to failed "live with" relationships. I realized after a lot of soul searching I have been a doormat of women for years, they don't respect me....so here I am.
    Right now I am struggling with a major case of Oneitis. I have moved back to my hometown and become infatuated with this one girl....you know, the old AFC thing-can't stop thinking about her, get jealous when i see her flirting with other guys on FB, etc. Total infatution.
    I am hoping that someone can give me some tips on how to get over this girl. She just broke up with her live in boyfriend 2 weeks ago and kicked him out-we've been texting, had coffee once. She's got dozens of guys chasing after her.
    Any tips? Thanks.

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    So oneitis texts me this morning and asks what I am doing. I end up going over to her place this afternoon with a coffee for her and we just talked, but it was very awkward. attempt at a bit of Kino went OK, just standing close to her a few times shoulder to shoulder, i sat on a couch and she sat on a chair 3 feet away (groan) and she seemed to laugh a bit, but was biting her fingernails and fidgeting alot-hard to read. Her dog ruined my shirt when he came in from outside and jumped on me, i joked a bit about it. left after an hour.
    texted her about an hour after i left and said she owed me a new shirt-she replied back i know im sorry. lol. then i thanked her for having me over (probably a mistake) and said (groan) we should chill more often. nothing back since.
    I might have blown it here gentlemen.

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    Default Re: Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

    I should also add the following

    -her old boyfriend still lives there, but is "gone for the weekend" and moving out end of October

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    Default Re: Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

    Well first off, what are some materials you have been studying lately? If you haven't, I must say that there is no single magic pill that will help. Giving you a couple of tips will not aid you when something comes up you didn't expect. And trust me something will happen that you didn't expect.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

    If i were you, i would just play it cool for a bit. Get a good bunch of friends to hang out with and maybe invite her saying "hey out with the guys at bar blahblah show your face if you want!" But take it slow so you dont smother her. Girls like to be chased, and if you give in to that than you will be another one of those guys. Stick out, have a good time, dont act like a fool and things will work out if you play your cards right! Btw dont do the one on ones with her unless you know things are going in your favor!

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    Default Re: Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Well first off, what are some materials you have been studying lately? If you haven't, I must say that there is no single magic pill that will help. Giving you a couple of tips will not aid you when something comes up you didn't expect. And trust me something will happen that you didn't expect.
    I spend alot of time reading the posts in here. If that's what you mean. I am a planning on picking up The Game by Neil Strauss to read.
    This is all like a science. I am getting a wee tad long in the tooth to be getting "game" (I am 37 years old) but I guess its never too late to start right?
    The key thing for me is to change what hasn't been working. After 3 failed relationships, like I said, I realized the problem is that I am doormat, when I fall in love with a women she becomes my whole world. I don't want to change myself, but I do want to change what kind of women I attract and not just "settle" for the first women who bats her eyes at me.

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    Default Re: Hi-Struggled with women/relationships all my life

    Quote Originally Posted by jondog321 View Post
    If i were you, i would just play it cool for a bit. Get a good bunch of friends to hang out with and maybe invite her saying "hey out with the guys at bar blahblah show your face if you want!" But take it slow so you dont smother her. Girls like to be chased, and if you give in to that than you will be another one of those guys. Stick out, have a good time, dont act like a fool and things will work out if you play your cards right! Btw dont do the one on ones with her unless you know things are going in your favor!
    Thanks for the advice. I think I am going NC for atleast a few days. She alluded to being smothered several times by her past boyfriend so I am going to play it cool and slow, even though its counterintuitive to how I used to do things.


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