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    Default 31, divorced and 2 kids

    Hey everyone... Well, the title says most of it. I was married for 6 years and dated her for about 5 before that. A lot has changed in 11 years and I am no longer in College where it seemed to be a lot easier. So here I am, trying to re-learn "the game".

    For other men with kids... have you found this to be a deal breaker or making it a whole lot harder? I signed up for a couple online dating sites, and I swear, the check-box saying I have kids feels like it is what is killing me. I don't want to lie about, because after-all, my end goal is for it to work out and if she finds out later, it will just be worse.

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    Default Re: 31, divorced and 2 kids

    Hey man!
    Welcome to the forums!

    I was in a similar situation recently. Divorced for the 2nd time & 4 kids... (and I was 41 / just turned 42)

    My first attempt at online dating was a disaster! I think I rec'd ONE email, and it wasn't from anyone I wrote to, (nor would I have written to... LOL!)

    So, I did some research & studying, revamped my profile & pictures & tried again.

    That 2 time was a goldmine!
    I literally sent & received more than 3000 messages over a 2-3 month period, using POF, Match & OK Cupid.

    My inbox was a constant stream of prospects....

    Check out my "Texting Do's & Don't guide"

    It covers a ton of stuff about effective communication with women, whether it's via text or email /messages.
    AND there's a section about online dating too.


    I give examples of good, successful email openers I've used, as well as the replies I received.
    And I give a little insight about how to set up a good profile.

    That should help you get a solid foundation.
    But PM me & I'll give you a little more in depth info too.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    Default Re: 31, divorced and 2 kids

    Thanks man... that link had the information they try to sell for $50 on other sites (and is probably not even as good). I can usually come up with a good initial email, but it's after that where I struggle. They either don't respond, but I see they viewed my profile or they respond with nothing for me to build on and I reply but it dies there.

    I know I need to build my confidence back up before trying it 'live' again. I was never a PUA 11 years ago either, but I also didn't have much trouble getting mid - long term relationships. Hopefully it's just like re-learning to ride a bike after getting some solid tips around here.

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    Default Re: 31, divorced and 2 kids

    Well thanks!! I appreciate the kind words!

    I've actually read a couple of those "$50 programs" you're talking about. Most of them are pretty solid, but the cost can definitely be a factor! (especially after going through a divorce... I know first-hand!!) LOL!


    I'll admit that it does take practice when it comes to "leading the interaction".

    The key is this: Don't worry about having a "conversation" in the very beginning.
    The best approach is to get her having fun when she reads your messages. (If you can make her smile & laugh, you're building attraction)

    What I had success with, was to make little fun, flirty comments, or to compliment her personality, based on her profile description. (I even complimented a girl on the WAY her profile was written... which worked out very well!)

    I also made little cold reads abut them... pretty much just generalized statements that 99% of all women would accept & agree with.

    But when you combine those techniques with an energetic feel to your message, THAT'S when it becomes magical!



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