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    kevinnumber2 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default I doubt there's many people here like me, but I'm new so what do I know

    I'll try to shorten what can be a long story.

    I was raised in a very conservative church and so all of my skills at picking up women were 100% tailored to being used on women inside the church and with the intent of marriage in mind. Well, it worked. I got married. She then went crazy (I'm sure everyone says that but I'm not making it up, like fairies and dragons and Greek goddesses and souls from 3000 years ago being real things type crazy) and I was out on my ear at age 25. Further events made me really question the church and eventually fall away from it and now I'm approaching life from a new and less restricting perspective at age 27 and I'm pretty dang clueless.

    My moral system is still pretty much intact, I'm not out looking to score with 600 women before the end of the year but I do need some sort of method or something where I can at least proactively meet people in hopes of meeting someone I like. I can't do it at church, most people at school are 19-20, and I don't drink.

    I went on Craigslist and met and dated one girl, but everything besides that one has been a robot or an unattractive girl. I went on datehookup and met one girl but never dated, no luck at okcupid or pof (I think due to my lack of good pictures of myself and probably my openers weren't very good; both accounts are under kevinnumber2 as well if you want to look at them).

    My current strategy is to meet guys at school and get invites to social gatherings and try to meet women at those places. Once I get to talk to a girl, I have no problems and they pretty much all like me. I don't think I'm bad looking and I'm good with humor once I know the person a bit. My trouble is that I don't know where to go to meet women for the most part, I don't know how to open whether in person or real life, and I probably don't know other things but at so green at this that I don't even know what to ask.

    Again, not looking to go bang skanks. I don't care if my final tally when I die is three (currently two). I do care if my entire life is spent sitting at home playing MMOs because I don't have anyone to do anything interesting with.

    I will be looking over the initial guides and the noobie thread as well.

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    pua_wannabe is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: I doubt there's many people here like me, but I'm new so what do I know

    Surprisingly there are people like you to some extent, anyways I am not one of them but ill throw in my two cents regardless.

    So this forum has a lot of information from fashion advice to f-closing and then some! I recommend checking out The Newbie Guide. Any advice given should be taken with an open-mind same as anything that you read. It'll help you understand what the purpose of PUA. You want to meet high quality women that's perfectly okay! this place will help. I wish you luck your journey
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

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    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: I doubt there's many people here like me, but I'm new so what do I know

    As someone who grew up in the church and who learned how to Game while working at a Presbyterian Summer Camp, let me tell you that you are not alone. It's not ideal, but it's definitely not impossible to get better at this coming from our background. It just takes a little reprogramming.

    Sounds like you want to look into day game. It's different from the Game you've read about in Straus' book, which revolves around Bars, Clubs, and Parties. Day Game involves learning to talk to women on the street, build attraction with them and eventually N-close or more. You should start looking into it.

    Here's an example of what successful Daygame looks like, courtesy of Linking

    Here's a quick overview of Day Game by the man himself, Bill Preston

    And then, now that you're undoubtedly hooked, I'd recommend Daygame.com. It's a great site built by the guys who kind of pioneered this field. Sign up for their newletter and you get some great videos sent in the mail.
    Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “WOW...What a Ride!”

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    Default Re: I doubt there's many people here like me, but I'm new so what do I know

    Hey Kevin, welcome to the community! Dunno just how new you are, but here's a little background on the Venusian Arts.

    A book called "Mystery Method: how to get beautiful women into bed" is a good start. One of the big ideas in it is the model that goes through three phases: Attraction (her becoming interested in romance with you), Comfort (her being comfortable with becomming sexual with you), Seduction (her expressing physical interest - this part makes the relationship more equal as two people undenyably pursuing each other rather than a man chasing a prized woman).

    As for meeting girls: meeting girls at parties, bars, clubs is "night game" - girls defences are high but/because they're open to meeting/hooking up with men; while meeting girls at shops, sidewalks, malls is "day game" - girls defences are low and getting a phone number is more likely.

    There is Direct Game (expressing interest in her beauty, then making her prove that she has more than looks) as well as Indirect Game (engaging her in a casual conversation while expressing romantic disinterest and then showing interest once she's "earned" it).

    Morally, there are some controversial techniques, and a lot of guys do gravitate to PU (pick up) because they want to "score girls". But most of the guys who stay in it long enough to get good have a great respect for women and people in general. We often hold ourselves to a higher moral standard specifically because we traffic in some more controversial technigues.

    Inner-game is basically your own thoughts, feelings and beliefs about yourself. Good inner game varies for everybody, but most of the time it involves confidence and seeing yourself as the prize that women have to chase. Because there are a lot of ups and downs with a PUA lifestyle (constant streaks of successes and failures) inner game is really important to keep yourself grounded. There's usually some "fake it til you make it" in the beginning
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