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Thread: My story... I need to get my game back

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    Default My story... I need to get my game back

    Hello everyone,

    I don't know where to start, this time last year I was pulling women left and right, then I met my match (now ex) who completely drained the life out of me, I lost my confidence, my self esteem, my creativity and my motivation to even workout like I used to. This girl wasn't the prettiest thing Ive ever had but we kicked it off great, lots of common interest (or so I THOUGHT), enjoyed spending time together, ect. ect.

    We started off going to the gym, going out and having fun like couples do, but it all changed so fast it made my head spin, this girl is a master manipulator, an emotional bully, a complete control freak and she tried to change me into her vision of a perfect mate.

    I changed gyms so we could workout together, then she took a new job and quit going, she was practically begging me to move in for about 3 months before I gave in, next thing I know I have a home gym instead of a membership, but those were "my choices" no, she slowly manipulated me into not going to the gym.

    We quit going out and having fun after a while, our dates consisted of watching TV and eating like an old married couple... FUN!

    She had me turning my back on my family members, my diet took a hit, my self confidence took a huge plunge and she slowly dwindled away my self worth and manhood. I started reading the bible and wised up.

    3 weeks ago I walked out on her after another argument (all I was trying to do was talk to her about the ways things were, but she has some serious anger issues, another reason I had to get out of the relationship). I found my own place the next day, stayed with my parents for a week then moved my things out. I will never let a woman control me like that again.

    So here I am in my new 2 bedroom house with my daughter reading, researching, learning and trying to get my game back. Someone told me about these forums so I thought I'd check em out. That girl really screwed my head up, glad I didn't get too involved (marriage would have been death).

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    I Posted 7 Threads on this thread. Read them all if you value your game:

    Hi PUA mentors and brothers.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    Hey man! Pleasure meeting you! I'm not sure what your story here tells yourself, but what it tells me is that the only thing you truly lacked before was control. So when you start working your way up there again, and get your game going again, always remain in control. Don't let her have it, and if you do, let her know she isn't keeping it for long. It's like a cat playing with a string, once you let her keep that control, you dropped the string, she doesn't want to play anymore. Try and keep in mind that anything you do, it wasn't really her doing them, it was you letting her do them. So even if it wasn't blatant, it was still implied. This is where I would go from here:

    1. Take full responsibility.
    2. Work on your belief system.
    -You're beautiful
    -You're confident
    -You're (Place more wanted values here)
    3. Ask friends what they think of belief "X-Self Value"
    4. Self-Validation, keep believing it and it will be so.

    Another good thing to do is, "Logically beneficial" It's not logically beneficial for you to be upset right now, so don't be. Whats more beneficial, thinking I'm not confident or thinking I am? (Thinking I am of course!)

    Also, note to number 3; I realize the only validation you should need is self-validation, but you're human, so other people's validation will help get the process moving. And now that I've wrote you a book... Lulz.

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    Believe me, I am working on my belief system, I have books on positive thinking, subconscious mind power and hypnosis, mediation CDs and more... I'll get it back just takes some time, and as for taking full responsibility, already did that, I sent her a text after moving out and said I take full responsibility for everything that went wrong in our relationship, thanks for being a part of my life and opening my eyes to the true me lol she was in shock!

    I had a copy of pandoras box, but someone must have deleted it from my laptop, that's what got me going in the first place, but these forums are pretty in depth from what Ive read so far and there's a lot more info here. Thanks for the welcome.

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    Good stuff man! Keep working in the right direction! I'm sure you'll do great things.

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    One more point on inner game and self value:

    Use your past to your advantage, Think about the obstacles, physically, mentally you have conquered in your life. Then think about all the thing you have accomplished in your life, weather big or small. You still have accomplished those things, you did it, your own effort and hard work.

    I want you just think about that paragraph above ^^^. just think for 5 minutes.

    Do you feel better about yourself?
    Do you see more value?
    Do you feel even a little bit more confident?

    This Is called Inner Game but i call it Self Recognition. What your doing with the books and positive thinking and CD's etc is good, I do that too, I meditate, I've read books on psychology, social science, body language, deception, seduction, Munipulation, Power and Art of War. Martial arts,

    There all good Tools, But nothing has quite hit the spot aswel as self recognition, knowing and embracing my own accomplishments.

    Things I Think About:

    1.Helping 100's and most likely 1000's on this site Pick Up
    2. Starting my own bussiness
    3. Dealing with and enjoying life with(Type 1 Diabetes)
    4. Having 2 BlackBelt Equivalent (Chinese and Thai Martial Arts) Belts are usually Japanese
    5. looking at how I've matured.
    6. how I've dealt with situations

    the list will go for quite some time.

    This Is My Inner Game... And it Feels Fucking Great!!!!!!!!!!!
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    Interesting perspective.... Here's what comes to mind off the top of my head

    I have my own store
    I've ran multiple businesses of my own
    I've made a living online for years
    I lost over 50 pounds and have a ripped upper body
    I am raising a 3 year old on my own for the most part
    I learn things faster than a lot of other people
    I still have a couple friends with benefits because I'm just that good
    I taught myself how to design websites before blogs came along
    I've used my mind to bring things into my life with little effort < This one is the kicker

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    Default Re: My story... I need to get my game back

    Been a while since I logged on here, been too busy working on myself and getting laid! Had to throw this in tho, went out with a girl for some margaritas and dinner, my ex shows up with some dude, does a complete 180 and almost trips him when she saw me sitting there then the waiter sat them 2 tables away from us, that was classic! Me and the girl I'm now tagging on a regular basis laughed our asses off at her! Needless to say, that made our night all the more fun

    Been seeing this girl for about a month and she told me she loves me already... ouch, can't say it back and I'm not going to lie. Any suggestions? I told her from the start I'm not looking for a serious relationship, she's trying to get me to commit and it's not gonna happen.


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