Hi there! I've just been browsing the forum a bit and am liking what its about. I hadn't realized that ideal pick up methods can be so similar for most situations out there. That being said, I'm wondering if I could get more specialized assistance in a more specific case.
I suppose for the sake of a new member intro, I'll give a brief description of myself. I'm 20 years old, about 6 feet tall, 170 lbs. I'm a university student but am actually off campus right now with my studies but I still am on campus 4 or so days a week to go to the gym. I'm fairly shy (which i'm trying to work on.. but i'm starting to think it's just part of my personality) but i'm not "awkward" if you know what I mean. Like.. I can carry a conversation but some of the things that come out of my mouth maybe aren't ideal and might not indicate that I want to carry on with a conversation so I end up having to recover.
Anyways, I've been wanting to go to the university campus for a while now with the sole attempt of trying out some pick up methods just for fun. I would probably go just by myself since I would feel more*comfortable*tha t way. So I think I've finally found time to do this tomorrow after work and figured I'd ask some of the experts to steer me down the right path.
The goal is to meet someone, make small talk, then invite them to go get something to eat. After that, I want to see if I could (successfully) invite them back to my place. I know this seems like a daunting task but it makes perfect sense in my brain!
So I guess my first question, when I'm looking for someone to talk to, is it best to find someone who is walking, sitting down reading / studying or someone who is in line at say a coffee shop. (I would assume in my case not someone who is walking since that is a pretty obvious indicator that they have somewhere to be and likely wouldn't have time to come grab something to eat.) And also, are there any "newb" friendly openers that would go well with either of these cases?
Next would be typical small talk. My only question here is should I have a few go to topics that i steer the conversation towards or should I just let the flow of the opener take the conversation where ever?
The next question (probably the one which I am most clueless about) would be, how to I transition from small talk to inviting her to get something to eat?
And following that, how would i go from a discussion over food (I don't know if I'd exactly consider it small talk at this point) to inviting her back to my place? (I have a pretty good idea here but I'm curious to see what the experts say. For what it's worth, my idea is to say something along the lines of "what are your plans for the rest of the night?" And hoping she replies with something along the lines of "I'm not too sure" or "nothing" I would say "well would you want to come back to my place and watch a movie or something?".)
Assuming I get to that point, I would say I've accomplish all I had came for but a few other things are coming up in my head now.
Seeing as how tomorrow is Friday, I'm questioning how successful this could be since I'd imagine lots of girls would already have plans and I would basically just be late to the show. Would it be more effective to just get a number tonight then call / text midweek next week and go from there?
Last thing I wanted to ask (probably could have used a different thread for this but its a first post so ehh..
I'm just wondering if there is anywhere on this forum where I could read about the fastest way to pick up a girl and get her over to your place? Not that I'm one of those guys who just wants that but because I really think this would help me with being shy and every time I succeed I would be offered a (hopefully good) reward.
Thanks for reading!