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Thread: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

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    Default Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Hi everyone,

    I'm a very inexperienced 28 year old guy from Toronto, Canada who's terrified of women. I have a friend who goes out and has casual sex almost once a week, and I envy him so much. For me, that is just a dream, a fantasy.

    My biggest problem:

    I must give off some awkward vibe when I meet pretty girl because whenever I see them again a second time, they always avoid eye contact with me every day from then on.

    My sad short list of experiences with women so far:

    I've only had one girlfriend, which was when I was 16. The only reason that happened was because she told me she liked me on MSN. We broke up soon after because I was too shy to ever make any moves, and we never even kissed.

    I lost my virginity at a party in college I remember absolutely nothing about.

    My first taste of acceptance

    Last month, fed up after 28 years of being a coward, I finally randomly talked to a classy girl (HB8) sitting next to me at the food court, even though it scared me sh1tless, and somehow I stumbled through the conversation and asked her out... and she said yes.

    We talked for a bit, but then I didn't make any moves. I didn't know what to do. We both left, and that night she told me she can't make it to the date.

    I was crushed, but I had got my first taste of acceptance by women, and now I feel like.. maybe it's not impossible.

    Goals

    I want to change. I'm not hideous looking. I'm dark-skinned but I don't think that matters in this world anymore.

    I want to be able to pick up women.. in the daytime, or at clubs (I don't go clubbing but maybe I should).

    I want to have more than just the four introverted loser friends I have right now.

    Basically, I want to get a life. Can you help me?

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Hey Arthur,

    Fair play to you mate, very brave of you to open up like that. First things first, on your goals turn the word "want" into the word "will"

    Its all in your head dude, change your mind-set and be open to forget everything you have learnt to this point because the proof is in the pudding and it aint working.

    Right you need to get out there, find 3/4 openers, keep it short and simple. For example
    "What time is it?" "Hey, where around here has great coffee?"

    This is to get the aa out of you, whenever walking down the street smile and say hi to everyone (that helped me loads!)

    Take a good hard look at yourself and find ways to stand out from the crowd, I have a lot of accessories and talking points. Go to a hairdresser and tell them to give you an awesome and original new cut!

    Finally work on projecting confidence and ultimately becoming alpha. Smile when entering rooms, randomly talk to people "Hey guys, hows your night going?"

    The only way you are going to get comfortable with it is if you talk to EVERYBODY! fact!

    Hope this helps dude, good luck out there and feel free to ask for help whenever you need it
    Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Quote Originally Posted by arthurcripslock View Post
    Hi everyone,

    I'm a very inexperienced 28 year old guy from Toronto, Canada who's terrified of women. I have a friend who goes out and has casual sex almost once a week, and I envy him so much. For me, that is just a dream, a fantasy.

    My biggest problem:

    I must give off some awkward vibe when I meet pretty girl because whenever I see them again a second time, they always avoid eye contact with me every day from then on.

    My sad short list of experiences with women so far:

    I've only had one girlfriend, which was when I was 16. The only reason that happened was because she told me she liked me on MSN. We broke up soon after because I was too shy to ever make any moves, and we never even kissed.

    I lost my virginity at a party in college I remember absolutely nothing about.

    My first taste of acceptance

    Last month, fed up after 28 years of being a coward, I finally randomly talked to a classy girl (HB8) sitting next to me at the food court, even though it scared me sh1tless, and somehow I stumbled through the conversation and asked her out... and she said yes.

    We talked for a bit, but then I didn't make any moves. I didn't know what to do. We both left, and that night she told me she can't make it to the date.

    I was crushed, but I had got my first taste of acceptance by women, and now I feel like.. maybe it's not impossible.

    Goals

    I want to change. I'm not hideous looking. I'm dark-skinned but I don't think that matters in this world anymore.

    I want to be able to pick up women.. in the daytime, or at clubs (I don't go clubbing but maybe I should).

    I want to have more than just the four introverted loser friends I have right now.

    Basically, I want to get a life. Can you help me?
    Hey man, I am in Toronto also. I am fairly new to the community, but I have made some solid progress in the field recently. Also in the past, I had success but didn't have a system. Anyhow, welcome aboard. A bunch of guys here from TO are looking to get together and go sarging. You should come.

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Quote Originally Posted by Fuser View Post
    Hey man, I am in Toronto also. I am fairly new to the community, but I have made some solid progress in the field recently. Also in the past, I had success but didn't have a system. Anyhow, welcome aboard. A bunch of guys here from TO are looking to get together and go sarging. You should come.
    Hey Fuser, nice to hear from a fellow Torontonian! Man, I would definitely like to come. Life is too short to be a pussy forever. I'm so nerdy though that there's a strong risk that I might fuck up your game just with my presence and lack of experience at clubs you know?

    Thanks Cnose for the tips as well. I don't really have the balls to go around saying "hi" to everyone on the street yet, but for now I'll definitely try to smile more and say hi to a couple of random people tmrw (Monday).

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Quote Originally Posted by arthurcripslock View Post
    Hey Fuser, nice to hear from a fellow Torontonian! Man, I would definitely like to come. Life is too short to be a pussy forever. I'm so nerdy though that there's a strong risk that I might fark up your game just with my presence and lack of experience at clubs you know?

    Thanks Cnose for the tips as well. I don't really have the balls to go around saying "hi" to everyone on the street yet, but for now I'll definitely try to smile more and say hi to a couple of random people tmrw (Monday).
    We are all learning man. As long as you are willing to make a change, which it sounds like you are then it would be good experience. I prefer lounges over clubs. I have hit a couple of spots that are cool.

    PM me your email/contact info brother.

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    I've noticed there are 2 types of guys on here;

    The ones that help newcomers and treat them as equals.. No better or worse because they too had to start like you...

    and the guys who think they are the "sh1t" and are "better" then everyone else because of what they know and experience; ..

    Its easy to spot;


    Im 28 too man and just started this stuff; It will change your life forever if you stick it out; ( I don't know but deeply believe this on the inside)


    A motivating factor for me is this "Imagine yourself 40 years from now, your 68 years old; do you really wanna look back when you were young and regret not even saying hi or approaching beautiful women?

    Its better to approach and fail get rejected then not approach at all..


    In my short time in the field one thing I've definitely realized is the masters and guys who get the most beautiful girls are the guys that have gotten rejected the most;

    There game may be good now and maybe get 20-30% close of the girls they approach; but i bet you if you actually knew the amount of times they got rejected it would be probably atleast hundreds if not thousands(true masters)

    Ive gotten rejected by atleast 20 girls this past week; thats 20 more rejections than most guys ill face in 1 year;

    The hard part I'm dealing with when starting out is to not take rejection personally and view it as a learning experience and progress; Its tough for me cause I'm a sensitive guy;

    But you can do this man its all practice and refining your skills it truly is an art..


    Oh and I've been doing all day time; its brutal man


    I recommend these books as must reads

    The Game
    Mystery Method
    Tao Of Badass

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Hey man, good going on taking that first step. I love seeing more Canadians.

    As you start, your biggest issue is probably gonna be Approach Anxiety.
    It helps to reframe rejection as a learning experience. Don't take it personally. Also, something that has really pushed me is this quote by Teddy Roosevelt.

    It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
    I have this printed and plastered all around my house. It is great to motivate me and is the first thing I see every time I wake up.

    A bit extreme, but it definitely gets me pumped up

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    Default Re: Intro to my 28yo inexperienced ass

    Hey Arthur,

    I just wanted to drop a line and welcome you. I actually just joined recently myself.

    It looks like you've already received a good amount of dating advice. I would encourage you to get in the habit of looking women in the eye when you pass them by and just say "hi". Or the next time you go to the store, try to get a female cashier to ring you up and then say "Hi how's your day going" while looking her in the eye (and then wait for her to respond). After you do this enough times, you should feel your confidence level rise.


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