I'm relatively new to PUA and I really like the philosophy of being empowered as a man. I've seen to many of my buddies who are really great guys settle for less than stellar women because that's what was available to them.
I have some good things going for me in terms of what women want and have the potential to become very successful with women, but I think that the thing that could hold me back are the ethical questions I have about PUA. From what I can see the PUA community has a lot to offer men in terms of empowerment, but I feel like when I apply some of the methods in the field that I'm boiling away the social interaction to some base level and it tends to make me feel very... Machiavellian.
I'm ordinarily a very analytical and straightforward person; I care deeply about my honor, integrity, and ethics, but when I'm in the field and really feel connection with a woman I feel like I take on a mischievous persona (hence the name). Since I'm fundamentally an analytical person I don't easily get caught up the emotion of a situation and I don't really have a lot of emotional invested in the outcome of any specific interaction. When I'm in mischief mode I feel like I'm pulling her strings as I playfully tease and neg her, I'm watching for signs of insecurity, IOIs, and indications that things could could escalate and when it does escalate I feel like I have a moral dilemma. I've studied people and psychology for years as a hobby and when I become intertwined with the social dynamics I feel like I'm Captain Kirk violating the prime directive.
Can one still have honor, integrity, and be ethical while being a PUA? Has anyone else dealt with similar thoughts/feelings in becoming a PUA?