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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    So if she meets all the guidelines for a sociopath then she is one right, we were suppose to live together etc a year ago , but she said i wish u were different , i would be with u if u dint smother me , call me , and if u dint quit working out , thosr are just bs excuses right? And she said she dont deserve me . So wtf

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    Hey Dvynk, just relax mate and don't let her push you around, you a farking man for god sake (hopefully), just do the NC rule and if she text you ignore it for now try to calm your down and enjoy life. Also listen to everyone here I'm honest to god these people have saved me from a major heart-attack. if you want to hear my story just read it on Volkov. But honest I've just found out my ex who I loved with all my heart is going out with this other guy. don't let it bother you yesterday I was in the same position, but remember the more you improve on yourself and the more you think positive people will see that in you and so will she . Hope this helps man good luck.

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    Mate you are hung up on this woman!

    Ask yourself why? what are you getting out of this hot-cold, on-off relationship other than frustration and misery.

    You said she is sociopathic! There are literally hundreds of girls out there that are going to be more attractive and don't come with the baggage.

    Forget about her, stop engaging in her petty mind games and find yourself a better option. Two things will happen, 1) she will disappear from your life, you will move on, you will find someone sane! 2) she will chase you, get her act together and then YOU can decide if you actually want her.

    If I was your mate I would have slapped you by now LOL

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    Ya thx , your right mate................ ..

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    Well man, you've lured me into making a profile on this forum because your post compelled me to respond. I spend a lot of time bouncing between different relationship/dating programs, sources, reading all sorts of books, and helping to couch a lot of people in my immediate area. In fact, I'm probably close to $2,000 invested in this stuff. I am quite familiar with TXB (1.0 and 2.0), as well as Mr. Fiore's other work (sorry if I'm name dropping and soliciting other peoples work, I'm sure he wouldn't be too happy with my talking about him on a PUA forum either ). You're probably not going to like what I'm about to tell you.

    Reading your post, there are a few issues that I recognized:

    First: I think you missed a lot of the big pillars of the whole TXB program, and I really don't think you've given yourself the chance to even get over the last relationship you had with her (even though it's been over a year). This is clear to me because you said you "hooked up on and off for about a year".

    You ended up putting yourself in a really bad position. You allowed her to get the physical and emotional satisfaction she wanted from you without having to commit to you -- AKA, you never made her actually feel the gravity of what breaking up with you meant. And she showed that by going back to her "abusive ex". That's the point of the NC rule. (But! I'll also add where I differ in opinion from TXB -- there is NO set time limit for a woman to get over all the negative feelings she feels about the old relationship. I've seen things saying "give it 2 weeks" to "give it 30 days" to "give it 2 months". Man, there is no time limit. Sad but true.)

    Second: The biggest way to bring back anyone into your life that you cared about is accepting the fact that the old relationship is GONE. This is more than just saying "Ok, it's over.", it's actually about thinking FORWARD about your life, not constantly looking behind you at what was once there. This is also the point of the NC rule. At this point you are accepting the relationship is over and designing your life for yourself based off what you want to be. This actually gives you a chance to make yourself be the man that you want --- and without getting too far off subject on a rather LARGE tangent --- you may actually find out that she isn't the one you want to be with anymore. By letting yourself stay hung up on her you're pre-disqualifying the millions of other women that will actually suit you much better.

    There's this thing called the "Push-Pull theory", the more you try and pull someone towards you, the more they'll push you away. But when you suddenly stop pulling, they wonder "Hey, wtf?" and they end up coming back to get the attention they use to get (I've had much success with this myself).

    Thirdly: When she gets into fights with you, she's subconsciously testing you (whether she realizes it or not). By being emotional back to her and caving in -- like apologizing all the time -- you're not really being the "man" of the relationship, and just further justifying why she shouldn't be with you. Listen man, women are incredibly emotional and social creatures. Men, however, did not evolve to be like that. So when the "man" is being emotional one in a relationship, there's no space for her to be. That's not what she's looking for -- she wants the man to be the emotional 'rock' so she can throw whatever temper tantrums she wants to and know that you're still there, unmoved by it.

    Also, I'll add -- that believe it or not -- women are actually so attune socially that they can tell when someone's being a bit manipulative. By using the TXB program (or something similar) and hanging onto lines and specific ATB texts thinking it'll magically work... she'll picks up on it. She'll feel like you're trying to manipulate her -- which is why you should use that stuff as guidelines, not as a magic pill to get her back. Fact is, man, she may never come around. And you have to accept that.



    This is the deal man, if she's texting and asking friends about you, that may not be a bad sign. But your reactions to how she interacts with her is what is disqualifying you to her. You really need to focus on yourself... Accept she may not come back, she may not be "the one" for you. And when you realize that you have Every. Single. Chance. to get anyone you possibly want, you may find that you deserve a lot better than the wringer you've been putting yourself through. But you can't get to that point until you stop looking behind you and really focus on yourself.

    Hopefully this helps.
    -CW

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    I'm sure he wouldn't be too happy with my talking about him on a PUA forum either )
    I am personal friends with him, I doubt he would mind being discussed here.

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Preston View Post
    I am personal friends with him, I doubt he would mind being discussed here.
    I'm honored then! Someday I want to meet your friends!

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    Default Re: i need help with my ex

    The power of a relationship lies with whoever cares lesss, keep that in mind man.. and goodluck with your ex


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