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Thread: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

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    Default Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

    Does anyone feel totally alienated from everyone, that they just can't really click with anyone without faking? This has been me for the last few years, and after six months of not leaving the house more than once a fortnight and not feeling lonely, I started to wonder whether I actually want friends, or even a girlfriend.

    I went and lost my virginity to a prostitute, just to see whether being social could actually offer me anything, and the horrible truth was that it could... It made me feel alive, lifted the numbness, and I was greeted with lots of pain days after because of.

    I just don't think I'm capable of actually having a girlfriend; bars are just so intimidating, I have to hide so much of myself or else I'll be demonstrating so much negative value, since in reality I'm a complete loser, and I can't connect with anyone anyway, I'm just too alien. I was invited to a party the other month, and it was full of science students; I always thought that I'd be able to connect with more intelligent people, but it didn't happen, and the destruction of that last bit of social hope just destroyed me. I've realised that to achieve social success, that I need to do a lot of work, involving integrating myself into the collective consciousness, conform to it's ways and try to appreciate movies and other important cultural bullshit, but it's hard. I'm also thinking of going to bars and take drugs in the hopefully non-vain hope of helping me connect with some girl, but opening girls is just so nerve-wrecking.

    Anyone else been in a similar boat?

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    Default Re: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

    yo i don't have much time on my hands right now but to clear some smaller things up for you right now

    I'm also thinking of going to bars and take drugs in the hopefully non-vain hope of helping me connect with some girl, but opening girls is just so nerve-wrecking.


    this is NOT the answer to connecting with chicks, eventually your money will dry out and you won't be able to afford drugs and then you'll be some douchebag who has no money drugs or sanity because you'll be suffering from withdrawal among other sh1t


    I went and lost my virginity to a prostitute, just to see whether being social could actually offer me anything, and the horrible truth was that it could... It made me feel alive, lifted the numbness, and I was greeted with lots of pain days after because of.
    dont be sad or depressed this happened, we all have scraped the bottom of the barrel in some form or another which is our drive to become a better person and do crazier and better sh1t that we never though we'd be doing, read the below

    http://www.puaforums.com/game/17868-...-new-post.html

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    Default Re: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

    Hi S.Y.M. (sym sounds like a pretty deep name when put like that ) I want to say YES, yes i have been there, still feel there on occasion, and know how hard it can be at time.

    Firstly i want to speak from experience to hopefully provide some constructive advice. I started smoking weed after Uni when a Long term R ended badly. It was a great support mechanism (or at least seemed like it at the time) and helped me to stop focusing on the negative. However, 5 years later i am still smoking weed (not good). Im am trying to be as objective as possbile here so bare with me . Weed HAS been a great way to meet a very SPECIFIC group of women, that from my experience have similar problems to my own to deal with. Ultamitly it has been a huge bitch for my finances, it has made dealing with stress more difficult when not smoking, and tobacco is deadly (weed is still an unknown).

    In regards to feeling socially excluded from synthetic normality...
    I know how it feels, i spent far too long thinking i was an outsider. Eventually, after smoking weed, i thought it didnt matter and weed was all i needed. I still enjoy smoking but i have recently come to another realisation... This synthetic normality that you and i feel seperated from....its essential and a majority of ppl are a part of it. So...rather than feeling overwhelemed by it; i have started to realise that its just another GAME. Life is one big game, and PUA is a wonderful part of it (as long as ppl dont get 'hurt') So my suggestion, and what i am intending to do after a LTR break, is that we should embrace the bullshit and be a master at our own games.

    Looooong message but felt i should provide helpful input... If you wana PM me mate feel free.


    DJ

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    Default Re: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

    hey man, don't lose yourself!
    drug may make you feel good for a little while, but you will fall even deeper afterwards.
    there are plenty of tips around here and on other sites on the internet to help you, but the improtant thing is to really think this stuff over and assimilate it.
    If you want to get out of that depressive feeling in your gut I recommend music with a good beat and to do some sports...at least that's what helps me the best.

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    Default Re: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

    Ok you need throw away all these ridiculous beliefs you seem to have about yourself. If you don't like yourself then other people never will!

    You have a major self confidence issue and only you can address it!

    You are your own biggest problem right now and you need to start working on your own inner game. Trying to get validation from shagging is not the way towards a happy life.

    If you take nothing else from here memorise this- Social skills are something you can learn! Just like everything else in life and trial and error is the only way you will improve.

    also, DO NOT START TAKING DRUGS - awful idea, why compound a problem with another one?


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