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Thread: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

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    Default How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    I'm 22 years old and a total newbie. I actually have a wingman that I consider pretty good at picking up women. I try to learn from him, but he's on a such different level that it is hard to pick up on things on the fly.

    The thing is that this wingman thinks I'm pretty good with women. It's because I gave him that idea from the fake stories I told him about my college experiences.

    Anyways, last night he/we approached 2 ladies at a club and I was in total panic mode. I was pretty much thrown into the water without knowing how to swim. At first I panicked, but I eventually calmed down and had an "okay" conversation with the girl. Mainly small talk, but it was a natural conversation.

    However, it got to the point where I slightly panicked and had nothing else to talk about. At the end of the day, I couldn't tell if she just wasn't into me or I just wasn't being aggressive enough. This scenario where I run out of things to talk about happens often with me.

    Meanwhile, my wingman is chatting it up with the other girl, flirting being funny(which he naturally is) and eventually getting to the dance floor with her and closing the deal.

    Last night was a wake up call for me that I need desperate help. I would like to start from scratch.

    Where should I start on this forum?
    Also, how can I benefit from having a good wingman?

    Thank you for your time!

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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    If hes good with women the best thing to do is just admit you're not as good as you thought you where and have him teach you. One-on-one is the best teaching you can get. Besides that look in the new member section and ask an expert. If you have any specific questions just ask away.
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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    i agree with double-0 ... best way to learn is from the naturals, or those that maybe aren't naturals but have learned the ropes.. nothing like one-on-one... you should talk to your friend and tell him you want his help... have him observe you in the sets... have him observe you body language, your tone, etc... and then talk about it.... discuss what you think you did right or wrong. This by far is the best way I learned when starting out. You always want to learn from people that are at a higher level than you.
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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    Tell him you're rusty. I dislike lying to people, because it never leads to anything good honestly. At least big lies like that. Have him teach you some ropes. You should try escalating with the girls quicker maybe. And if you think you're going to run out of things to say, you WILL.

    When you talk to your guy friends, do you ever run out of things to say then panic? no... because you don't give a shit and you just talk, and be social. Are you going to be a PUA or are you just trying to get a girlfriend?

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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lust View Post
    Tell him you're rusty. I dislike lying to people, because it never leads to anything good honestly. At least big lies like that. Have him teach you some ropes. You should try escalating with the girls quicker maybe. And if you think you're going to run out of things to say, you WILL.

    When you talk to your guy friends, do you ever run out of things to say then panic? no... because you don't give a sh1t and you just talk, and be social. Are you going to be a PUA or are you just trying to get a girlfriend?
    That's good advice. As far as learning from the wingman goes, I personally think he's one dimensional in some sense. He's naturally funny and personable and I think that usually helps him out with the ladies. I'm personable, but I can't force being funny. That's why don't think I could completely learn from him.

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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by Whitelion6 View Post
    That's good advice. As far as learning from the wingman goes, I personally think he's one dimensional in some sense. He's naturally funny and personable and I think that usually helps him out with the ladies. I'm personable, but I can't force being funny. That's why don't think I could completely learn from him.
    I think anyone who is better than you at picking up girls, you can learn from. It's not like you have to learn the style he uses, or what he says. Just take small things you see from him and implement them into your game. You can be funny if you want. You don't have to be a comedian but I'm sure you can throw some funny things in there every now and thing. To be funny, you have to think funny. But don't come off as a clown, or goofy, or someone just there for entertainment... because you want to sexually escalate with these girls.

    Sure some people are naturally just funny people, but you can still be funny. I remember reading somewhere, when someone says "oh, that's just not me" it's BS because you can be whatever you want to be. Nothing is holding you back but yourself.

    I'm not a guru myself but I know some things, and I've had experience with many girls. You said you want to start fresh. I would try to get some recommendations on books to read, but make sure you don't become a book worm and just read all day and not actually go in the field. This is what some people do and they get nothing done. You'll learn the MOST from going out and trying new stuff. Trial and error. But to reduce trial and error, you can learn from others "mistakes" and better yourself.

    Work on your inner game and become the best person you can possibly be.

    Hope my words are some help to you, best of luck.

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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    You're probably panicking because you're worried about what to say next. Conversations don't come with a blueprint. You get in your head about what she might be thinking and then you got all that monkey chatter going on and you panic. If anything, if the silence does come up, keep eye contact so you look confident and joke about the silence, something like "Are you that infatuated with me that you can't think of anything to say?" playfully of course. The worst thing you can do is take it seriously. Have fun with it. As a noob myself, I know because I was always worried about the same thing.

    Second, unless your friend can explain thoroughly what he's doing like PUA experts, he may not be helpful. He may give advice like "Just go in and talk to her...", yeah, real helpful to a beginner. Although it is important to study your friend's body language carefully.

    Third, don't be afraid to escalate quickly. Do some Kino, escalate it, get a little sexual but discreetly like rubbing thighs a little bit. I used to have the Mindset, like many beginners, that women don't like being touched, or kissed, or sex as much as guys do. That's wrong.

    I would recommend just going through youtube videos of guys like David D, David Wygant, Gambler, Alex Coulson, all great guys who give even greater advice on how to opener, how to interact, be confident, etc.

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    Default Re: How to start from scratch and learn from this forum?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lust View Post
    I think anyone who is better than you at picking up girls, you can learn from. It's not like you have to learn the style he uses, or what he says. Just take small things you see from him and implement them into your game. You can be funny if you want. You don't have to be a comedian but I'm sure you can throw some funny things in there every now and thing. To be funny, you have to think funny. But don't come off as a clown, or goofy, or someone just there for entertainment... because you want to sexually escalate with these girls.

    Sure some people are naturally just funny people, but you can still be funny. I remember reading somewhere, when someone says "oh, that's just not me" it's BS because you can be whatever you want to be. Nothing is holding you back but yourself.

    I'm not a guru myself but I know some things, and I've had experience with many girls. You said you want to start fresh. I would try to get some recommendations on books to read, but make sure you don't become a book worm and just read all day and not actually go in the field. This is what some people do and they get nothing done. You'll learn the MOST from going out and trying new stuff. Trial and error. But to reduce trial and error, you can learn from others "mistakes" and better yourself.

    Work on your inner game and become the best person you can possibly be.

    Hope my words are some help to you, best of luck.
    Very helpful. Especially the part of not being a bookworm and actually going out there and getting comfortable with people. I've read here that Tao Badass is a pretty good starter book so I might look into that. I also have the pdf on the Pandora Box, but that doesn't seem to be beginner friendly.

    Quote Originally Posted by scguitar View Post
    You're probably panicking because you're worried about what to say next. Conversations don't come with a blueprint. You get in your head about what she might be thinking and then you got all that monkey chatter going on and you panic. If anything, if the silence does come up, keep eye contact so you look confident and joke about the silence, something like "Are you that infatuated with me that you can't think of anything to say?" playfully of course. The worst thing you can do is take it seriously. Have fun with it. As a noob myself, I know because I was always worried about the same thing.

    Second, unless your friend can explain thoroughly what he's doing like PUA experts, he may not be helpful. He may give advice like "Just go in and talk to her...", yeah, real helpful to a beginner. Although it is important to study your friend's body language carefully.

    Third, don't be afraid to escalate quickly. Do some Kino, escalate it, get a little sexual but discreetly like rubbing thighs a little bit. I used to have the Mindset, like many beginners, that women don't like being touched, or kissed, or sex as much as guys do. That's wrong.

    I would recommend just going through youtube videos of guys like David D, David Wygant, Gambler, Alex Coulson, all great guys who give even greater advice on how to opener, how to interact, be confident, etc.
    I need to be better at this. I'll take a look at those names you have mentioned.


    I appreciate you guys taking the time to answer my questions.


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