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Thread: How do I kill social anxiety?

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    Default How do I kill social anxiety?

    I'm not sure if it was a thread or a book I recently came across, but in it it had steps to become a more extroverted person.

    That is perhaps my greatest weakness. I simply don't have the necessary social experience to engage and hold someone in conversation. Now in this aforementioned book it gave a list of actions to do on a day-by-day basis that would eventually break down all social barriers.

    For instance, one day tasked you with saying "Hello!" to 30 people on the street. On another, you'd walk through town in a dress and bonnet. And on another day, you'd pull pranks on 5 people.

    If anyone has any idea what thread or book I may be talking about, let me know. Or if you have any advice to get a person out of his shell, go for it. I appreciate it.

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    Default Re: How do I kill social anxiety?

    How are you in your work environment? I'm a lot more outgoing with people at work than I am outside of work, so people think that I have no problem socially. Basically, it's a process that can't be overcome right away. If you can be more approachable and outgoing in comfortable situations, it will lead you to become more comfortable initiating conversations in general. Good luck and here's to more confidence!

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    Default Re: How do I kill social anxiety?

    Hello dude. Well, saying hello to everyone is ok, however, if you have social anxiety, the problem still remains.

    Grab a pillow and sit on it on the floor. No noises. Do the yoga thing. After that, do the "pregnant respiration/aspiration" exercise. Is it done?
    Ok, time to move on. Start thinking you're walking in the street. You see loads of people. You see a guy with a jacket just like yours. You see a beautiful girl using black skinny jeans. She passes by you and you can sense she's wearing "Armani Code".
    Sense everything with your eyes closed. All the noises, the wind, the hot weather, every single smell you can sense. Now think about talking to the girl I referred before. Are you sensing some anxiety? It's ok, it's supposed to be felt. But hey, go talk to her, you're in your on simulator, so you can't fail.
    Done that, go talk with every girl you "see". Imagine everything you'd say to her. The opener, the after opener. Say something like "Oh are you going to eat all that chocolate? Tomorrow the treadmill is going to cry ahahah :P".

    Now wake up. Do that in real life.
    What are you going to understand? Easy... They are women. The are, by their nature, insecure, so they're going to be insecure when you talk to them for the first time, so it's your job to take that insecurity away. They're no different than you and me. They have the same fears... no, they have more fears.

    Go got 'em tiger

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    Default Re: How do I kill social anxiety?

    It is true that women often have the same social anxieties of us. For instance there was a girl at the bar last night that kept trying to talk to me, she was cute I guess, but she kept stuttering and not finding the words. If I wanted to game her I probably could have but she wasn't really my type, sides it was my friend's bday and he was having fun with her so I just helped him out (I got him a lapdance from her).

    Here is an example:

    Me: Hey what about that lapdance for my buddy? (turn to him and whisper in his ear to go get a smaller chair and sit in it)
    Her: It has to be a good song though (she goes with another buddy to pick a song, I walk by shortly after)
    Me: You should do lollipop, there is nothing sexier than a girl that can get down to that song.
    Her: You need to watch it buddy
    Me: So you can't handle lollipop?
    Her: Watch it buddy!
    Me: My name is Jeff (in a very stern tone...A smile and she looked away for a few seconds then looked back)
    Her: I'm Rachael (big smile now)

    Several times she kept coming up to me but she couldn't find the words, I'm sure she felt kind of like she blew it as out of those group of guys I am kind of the alpha.
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple

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    Default Re: How do I kill social anxiety?

    Yes mate, whenever a girl puts her knight armour and the Bitch Shield up, we know that she's very insecure, so it's our duty to take it away, so that she can talk to us freely.


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