Hi, I've got a name but I'm not going to tell it to you. I'm new to this whole thing obviously, and I'm here for the same reasons as everyone else. Same shit, different toilet.
My only real exposure to this community is the ~300-odd pages I've poured through of The Game in the last 24 hours so I'm going to use your terminology and probably get it wrong.
Basically, I've got a case of one-itis for this girl I've been hooking up with (it's an LDR/not an R at all kind of deal) and I'm about to hop on the plane in about two hours to go visit her, in the hopes of trying to advance our relationship to where I want it to be. The problem is, I had this kind of awakening the other day as to how big of an AFC I am. I've been emotionally clingy up to the very last minute, constantly seeking her validation, and while I now realize it's the wrong fucking answer, I have no clue how to right it. I'm going to be seeing her in less than six hours and while she hasn't specifically told me that she's getting second thoughts about my visit, it's plain to see between the lines in our correspondence. To me, at least, and while I have this illogically negative frame that I'm slowly breaking myself out of, this observation still rings true.
So basically, what the fuck do I do? The nagging voice in my head is terrified of an awkward, sexless weekend with a girl who just doesn't have feelings for me anymore, but given that it makes me uncomfortable my thought is that I should just plow ahead and get the experience regardless. There is no failure, only success and experience (so I'm told).
I'm going to put my best foot forward and try to keep my confidence about me but I still feel the need to reach out for support and advice, if there is any. I get back on Sunday and I'm going to immediately immerse myself in the 30 day challenge, but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me in the interim.
I realize this girl's just one small fish in a big fucking sea of them, but I'm having trouble separating my logic from my emotions.
On a sidenote, this is a really interesting community you guys have and I'm looking forward to seeing what it has to offer me - and maybe eventually what I can give back. Nice to meet you all, so to speak.