Look u need to work on u're inner game and core, u need to accept and love urself they way u are cuz truthfully there is no right and wrong and u only fail at stuff cuz u subconcsiously want to or u didn't want to do that thing in the first place (u just felt like u needed to) when u do that u'll start to know what u're own beliefs are, u will grow stronger. Each time u grow stronger u will face things that used to bother u in u're past each time u overcome them u will feel stronger and u will face things that are further in u're past until u reach the root of the problems. Yes there is only probably one ting there. then u will finally be awake. I think this will help too xavier - What to expect when becoming a pua
Note: The Budha once said:
…don’t go by reports, by legends, by traditions, by scripture, by logical conjecture, by inference, by analogies, by agreement through pondering views, by probability, or by the thought, ‘This contemplative is our teacher.’ When you know for yourselves that, ‘These qualities are unskillful; these qualities are blameworthy; these qualities are criticized by the wise; these qualities, when adopted & carried out, lead to harm & to suffering’ — then you should abandon them.
Wich roughly means
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense.”