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    lolbroek is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    Heya PUA community !

    The title off this post says it all
    I 'm new to the forum and to the PUA community.
    I joined this forum for the sole reason that I can't seem to close on 'the girl'!
    I'll be honest, i'm seeing two girls atm and I really enjoy it...but so far neither of the girls I have dated yet are first choice. The ones I really like, it seems like they are unreachable!! I have trouble opening and keeping them interested in me. While those other girls I'm seeing I can't just play around with them and still come back to me ( all my ex's still have a soft spot for me, or at least that's what they make me believe )
    That is why I decided to join this awesome community.

    Maybe some people will say i don't need help cause I already am dating two chicks at the same time, true ! But trust me if I say that when it comes to those really really hot ones....I freeze, lose inspiration, get nervous and start to think what they might think of me !!!! all the bad stuff u don't need

    Since I'm not familiar with any of the terms used in this forum, can you guys suggest any beginner guides, or post I must read to start improving my game,... actually I have no game when it comes to those hot babes

    aight, gona do a beauty sleep !
    hope to talk to u soon guys !
    ciao

    ( sorry if my english grammar sucks, it ain't my native language )

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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    Quick answer:
    Because u REALLY want them.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    lolbroek is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    thanks Xavier for first replay
    You have a point but that being said, I get a pretty good feeling 'unwanting/not needing' them well be a problem for me.
    Need to digg out the whole forum so it seems

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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    Like xavier said.

    You have motive.

    As Mystery once said: When you have motive, that conveys that she has more value than you.

    You lower your own value by showing too much interest too fast.

    I know how it feels, because you really do want to hook up with these women. But you have to hold your motive back, and run solid game.

    It gets easier with time, trust me. I'm still working on it myself. But it's getting easier and easier.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    That's not my native language either, where are you from?

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    scguitar is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    You're putting the hot ones on a pedestal and getting in your head. They're human too. They're wired just the same as the girls you're with now (easier said than done, I know).

    So, if you feel you're getting inside your head, ground yourself. observe things around you and get in the moment. Approach a hot girl using a time constraint so you don't have to stay long, try to get a number then get out. Good luck.

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    lolbroek is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    Thing is...I'm even to scared to walk up to them...let alone talking !
    So I figured out I have yet to learn the basics of a good game and being a PUA.
    If you guys have any good posts or guides I need to read before I read anything else..."insert link here !!!!"

    I get a feeling I'm reading all these great posts on the forum but are posted for novices, not beginners like me. I need to learn the basics first

    And i'm from Belgium

    ciao

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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    Quote Originally Posted by lolbroek View Post
    Thing is...I'm even to scared to walk up to them...let alone talking !
    So I figured out I have yet to learn the basics of a good game and being a PUA.
    If you guys have any good posts or guides I need to read before I read anything else..."insert link here !!!!"

    I get a feeling I'm reading all these great posts on the forum but are posted for novices, not beginners like me. I need to learn the basics first

    And i'm from Belgium

    ciao
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    See? I'm also a lolbroek

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    lolbroek is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    give me a magic link virgil or i'll be forced to ask in dutch

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    Default Re: Newbie... can get girls, ...but not the ones i really want !

    Look u need to work on u're inner game and core, u need to accept and love urself they way u are cuz truthfully there is no right and wrong and u only fail at stuff cuz u subconcsiously want to or u didn't want to do that thing in the first place (u just felt like u needed to) when u do that u'll start to know what u're own beliefs are, u will grow stronger. Each time u grow stronger u will face things that used to bother u in u're past each time u overcome them u will feel stronger and u will face things that are further in u're past until u reach the root of the problems. Yes there is only probably one ting there. then u will finally be awake. I think this will help too xavier - What to expect when becoming a pua
    Note: The Budha once said:
    …don’t go by reports, by legends, by traditions, by scripture, by logical conjecture, by inference, by analogies, by agreement through pondering views, by probability, or by the thought, ‘This contemplative is our teacher.’ When you know for yourselves that, ‘These qualities are unskillful; these qualities are blameworthy; these qualities are criticized by the wise; these qualities, when adopted & carried out, lead to harm & to suffering’ — then you should abandon them.
    Wich roughly means
    “Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense.”
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.


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