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Thread: She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

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    Default She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

    I went out to dinner with a girl about 10 days ago. I played it well, teasing etc. and we just got along well. She was clearly into me, touching me a lot, and I kiss-closed at the end.

    Then I don't know what happened. I didn't call or text for two days, then I sent her a text asking "how's your billiards game?" intending to try and play pool with her sometime. She never responded.

    The next day (which was importantly Valentine's day) I called her, but she didn't pick up. A couple minutes later she texted me, "Hey I'm at work still. What's up? Sorry I didn't respond yesterday."

    I was having dinner with some friends in her neighborhood, so I was thinking it would be a good move to stop by her place and give her a piece of candy, (I know it's a little bit cheesy and needy, but I didn't think I needed to play much game with this girl, and I never actually told here I had something for her) so I wrote "I'm gonna be in your neighborhood for dinner in a bit. You around for me to stop by very briefly afterwards?" She writes back "No i won't be there - I'm going home to the burbs tonight." So I wrote back "Too bad" and haven't texted or called for about five days.

    What does this mean? Why would she ignore my text? When we hung out it went well, now she's evasive. Did I get friend zoned? Was I too needy? Is she playing hard to get?

    And more importantly what's my next move? I know the best move is to have lots of girls so I don't care about being rejected by one, but I like her.

    Thanks guys!
    Kreps

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    Default Re: She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

    A few things. If things went well the first night, you should have definitely texted her after you left, something funny. And then kept the texting going - keeping it flirty and fun. You waited too long in my opinion. Then, when you did contact her, it was on V-day! That's definitely a no no! It's just oozes needy. And then the texting about what she's up to, etc... also screamed needy to me. Having said all this, I don't think all is lost, but you need to make sure you stop with the needy stuff. I suggest text gaming her. Keep it cool, cocky, funny, flirty... then invite her out again to something cool. Some event, so new coffee place, etc. etc... and get that one on one time again. You were obvisouly doing something right the first night. Once you get her out, and it goes well, you need to text her flirty stuff pretty quickly after, etc. and escalate.
    The world is your matrix. You control the strings.

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    Default Re: She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

    Dude, lose the "wait 2/3 day" text rule sh!t. She was obviously attracted since she kissed you, then over those 2 days the attraction went down because you basically ignored her. Should have texted her that night after you left... then again sometime the next day to plan your next date. Try to run you best text game on her or try to see her in person

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    Default Re: She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

    Showing up at someones house, or even partially inviting yourself over to someones house in the way you are describing it can seem clingy or insecure. Don't quote me on this, because I don't know exactly the situation except what you are typing. In my opinion, don't do something like that.

    With respect to texting... Everyone has their own style, so please take this with a grain of salt, as this is just how I PERSONALLY would handle this. It doesn't make my way right, but it's just how I've learned over time to manage this type of behavior.

    1. If she doesn't text you back, I would assume that she isn't attracted ENOUGH, or you are just being boring.
    2. The fact that you kissed her implies however that she IS IN FACT attracted to you.

    ... so... the situation is that you have a girl that IS attracted to you, but just not enough yet to make you a priority.

    Is she seeing someone else? Who cares...
    Does she only want to be your friend? Who cares...
    Has she ignored you for a few days? Who cares...

    It takes a HELL OF A LOT to get a girl to kiss while sober, and then completely bail on you. So again, the only thing we need to focus on here is getting her attention back and then re-energizing her with how much of an awesome guy you are

    What I would do (and this is just my opinion)... Text her this:

    Text 1 - Hey. Stop being shady.
    She will probably respond with something like "huh?"
    Text 2 - I need to kiss you again. Longer this time. But nothing freaky.
    At this point, doesn't matter what she says...
    Text 3 - Nevermind. Freaky is better. Bring Astroglide and Fruit Loops (don't ask questions).
    At this point, doesn't matter what she says...
    Text 4 - Nevermind. I'm cancelling and being shady like you...

    and so on. Cocky, funny, agressive, confident, sexual, and absolutely not giving a shit about how it 'appears.' Once you learn to be like this, you can have dribble coming out of your mouth and it can still seem attractive. In this case, you just haven't shown that side of you yet. Find it, and show it.
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    Default Re: She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

    I'm new to this forums but that last reply was awesome ! I'm definitely going to be using this in the future.

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    Default Re: She was into me, but now she's evasive by phone

    Another advice, be unpredictable


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