I want to introduce myself to the forum. To be honest I was not expecting the forum to be the way it is. I am happy to see that the underlying tone is respect towards women. Like everyone on the forum I am looking for solutions to a problem. However, I am not looking to just add notches to my belt. I actually wish my number was considerably lower. I do not put it as a measure of success on how many women I can sleep with. Rather find the woman who I want to sleep with every night. So reading things like "Have some standards. Don't jump into bed with a married woman just cause she falls in your lap. Don't break up a couple just cause you think a guys girlfriend has nice tits. We're men" from the sticky at the top of this forum made me realize this was a good place to seek help.
I am fortunate women typically consider me "hot" or "handsome"; however, that just makes it easier to get numbers or a girl at the bar. My close friends actually laugh sometimes because they say I can pick up more girls than all of them combined and some how f it up better than all of them combined. My problem is in texting, and a few other areas. Usually if I get them to a date I am good and if we kiss its over. I have actually been told more than once "It's not fair, now that I have kissed you I can't say no".
From just reading I have already started to get a picture of where I fail. I believe that by seeing where I fail (I only fail when I really do not want too, or I try to hard, do not make her chase and it is too obvious to her she already won). That is a huge problem for me and I am really looking forward to getting a better understanding on what I was doing and how to correct it. I am barely over 30, educated, have a great career, and am at the point where I want to find the right woman for me. That means that I cannot keep making the mistakes I have made when I really like someone. I read a post and it explained it loud and clear to me. I let myself be turned into a "good guy". That also explains why I have got the "your such a catch" or "similar things said to me in the past.
I feel like I have finally found the help that I have been looking for and I will be able to stop the AFC moves that I have been pulling. I am looking forward to getting to know you guys.