Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.
I like what scguitar and sidewinder89 has said. So even though my opinion will sound opposite, it's just an attempt at another perspective. But they are right.
You're not really into people or joining clubs/groups to just meet girls. Yea that's alot of work. Just to meet a girl? Yea right. It should be easy. Like playing COD for the first time was easy. Well....maybe not. I needed to keep playing to get better. Practice makes perfect. But not for girls. That's different. Girls a are easy and we shouldn't need to put in all that work that could go into mastering Skyrim. We should see a girl, maybe we like her, go talk to her, and she will just jump into our bed. Easy right?
My point is pickup is just like any other skill. Don't you watch YouTube videos or get your buddies together to figure out how to get better at your favorite online video game? You build your video game skills just like you would pickup. Wouldn't it be great to be able to get a gf at any time you like?
I can tell you that my reality is that I actually can have a gf at any time I like. Because it's not what is important to me. I want a high quality woman. So my reality is different from yours. Where you just plain want a gf, but think that you shouldn't have to put work into it. That is a bit absurd. But it's not your fault. We are raised believing to the contrary of what actually works. So you have to rewire your mind from what you've been taught for years. That...will...take.. ..work. Just like dieting. It takes focus and determination to pull it off and a quick fix leaves as fast as it comes. Also eveything seems like work at first. I was just like you. But now I don't think about pickup as much. It as become ingrained. Of course there's always more to learn, but I'm at a really good point at my skill that I know I an get laid or a gf and pretty much any time I choose.
I have no doubt you will get a gf eventually. What you simply are lacking is chances. These skills increase the chances. That's all. I'm sure you could meet someone on xbox. Maybe you bash through all the other guys hitting on her in the same lobby and get her fb. Then maybe you can build something from there until you go on a date, kiss, maybe even have sex if you know what you're doing. Then maybe you'll break up and become depressed. Because you realized it took 2 years just to get close to her and only lasted 6 months. Now you have to wait another few years and try again. Because you didn't feel like increasing your chances.
It's ok to do what you're doing if having a gf is not top priority. Just don't be surprised if you go 4 years without even getting laid. Again, with focus and determination you can do it. And everything new that you try will be work....at first. But you'll reach a point where it IS easy to get laid and even a gf. And what you'll desire is not just the idea of having a gf. But a woman who is worth your time and effort.
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