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    Default Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    At my fairly small college I like every guy in my early twenties want to get girls or have a steady girlfriend but I am not an outgoing person. I come from a large family so all my life my brothers were my friends (they still are), so I never felt any real motivation to make any other friends.

    In college I know that social circles plays a big role in your "value" but I'm not part of any circle, I go to class then go home (Commute to school and live at home). I have been stuck in this mode for a while.

    Here's the problem though: I've scoured the internet for a solution and none of them fit my situation. They all say "Join cubs, Get Active, Meet People"

    HOW'S THAT GONNA HELP, I'm not gonna join some club hoping that somewhere along the line through it I meet a girl that might like me. I don't have the time or the patience for that!

    I used to be part of a fraternity but I never got very close to any of the brothers and eventually suspended myself because it felt more like a job then a "brotherhood".

    I'm also pretty reclusive. All the things I like doing are things you do alone. I love to kick back and watch movies or tv while playing xbox (ahh at peace).

    What can I do to get a girlfriend?

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    try online dating, otherwise you're just gonna have to get out of your comfort zone like everyone else.

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    I'm not uncomfortable. I just think it's irrational to meet a bunch of people solely meet girls.

    I can talk to girls and flirt pretty well I'm just "bad at networking"

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    Not sure what you're complaining about when you say you have no problem chatting up girls, yet don't want to go out and talk to them? Bro, get out of the house and DO something. The worst thing you can be doing in college is living at home as well. I was just like you, watched tv, played xbox, didn't like going out or have much of a social circle. Once I went on my own to college, I came out of my shell a bit because I basically had no other option, and even more so now since I started learning about attracting women because it's fun.

    It's like you want girls to just come to your doorstep and want you. That's not gonna happen. Saying it's irrational to meet people is like saying it's irrational to sleep. You NEED to learn to interact with other people and make connections. Basic human survival tips really

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    I'm trying. It's just that there's plenty of guys like me who aren't in frats, and don't have that many friends, but still get laid.

    How do they do it?

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    OK a few things,

    1) move out: If college is anything like university in the UK then you will make a loads of friends if you move to a hall of residence. You make loads of friends as you are just part of a huge community that all want the same things.... i.e. going out and having fun. I cannot reiterate enough how much of the college experience you are missing if you live at home. If money's an issue get a job to fund it, it's worth.

    2) change your attitude: it seems like you view making friends as work and that you're pretty reclusive etc. I can understand your position because I used to be like it before I went to uni. Once I was there I made the active decision to change my persona and I haven't looked back... I'm much happier for doing.

    This may sound harsh but I'm trying to kick you out of your rut. If you're not comfortable in a social setting you won't be comfortable talking to women.

    3) Increase your opportunities: people are telling you to go out and join clubs etc because it will increase the size of your social network. The more invites you get to parties etc through friends the more women you can meet and approach.

    I think of pick-up as being about self-improvement rather than a set of tactics/cheats to get into women's pants. It's not about learning some magic phrases, it's about becoming the most desirable and attractive version of yourself you can!

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    I thought about moving out but I live ten minutes away, from the school, my folks say it's stupid to spend all that money to live at a school that is 15 minutes from homes. Plus it's not really worth it. My school is a city college with 2 residence halls that don't see much action. A lot of the students are in the same boat as me. (living at home while going to school).

    Surely I can force my situation to work for me right? I've been to big universities and there are some residential areas somewhat near and I'm sure those guys get in on some of the action.

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ghost141 View Post
    I'm trying. It's just that there's plenty of guys like me who aren't in frats, and don't have that many friends, but still get laid.

    How do they do it?
    They do it by making connections at the school, finding out where the parties are, and going to those parties. Sorry, but you need to build connections. Yeah, it's going to be work. There is no magic pill

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    buddy i can understan ur pblm
    wel 1st thing, keep ur self happy, try some funny stuff wch keeps u happy inside..
    2nd. make some buddies in colg,
    3rd out of ten gals in ur college, atleast one liks u, she is givs IOIs whn ever u meet, or see her.
    ......
    follow some rules from this datin( its is the best)..
    u wil get success very soonn...
    good luck....

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    Default Re: Want to get a Girlfriend (in college) but I don't like people.

    I like what scguitar and sidewinder89 has said. So even though my opinion will sound opposite, it's just an attempt at another perspective. But they are right.

    You're not really into people or joining clubs/groups to just meet girls. Yea that's alot of work. Just to meet a girl? Yea right. It should be easy. Like playing COD for the first time was easy. Well....maybe not. I needed to keep playing to get better. Practice makes perfect. But not for girls. That's different. Girls a are easy and we shouldn't need to put in all that work that could go into mastering Skyrim. We should see a girl, maybe we like her, go talk to her, and she will just jump into our bed. Easy right?

    My point is pickup is just like any other skill. Don't you watch YouTube videos or get your buddies together to figure out how to get better at your favorite online video game? You build your video game skills just like you would pickup. Wouldn't it be great to be able to get a gf at any time you like?

    I can tell you that my reality is that I actually can have a gf at any time I like. Because it's not what is important to me. I want a high quality woman. So my reality is different from yours. Where you just plain want a gf, but think that you shouldn't have to put work into it. That is a bit absurd. But it's not your fault. We are raised believing to the contrary of what actually works. So you have to rewire your mind from what you've been taught for years. That...will...take.. ..work. Just like dieting. It takes focus and determination to pull it off and a quick fix leaves as fast as it comes. Also eveything seems like work at first. I was just like you. But now I don't think about pickup as much. It as become ingrained. Of course there's always more to learn, but I'm at a really good point at my skill that I know I an get laid or a gf and pretty much any time I choose.

    I have no doubt you will get a gf eventually. What you simply are lacking is chances. These skills increase the chances. That's all. I'm sure you could meet someone on xbox. Maybe you bash through all the other guys hitting on her in the same lobby and get her fb. Then maybe you can build something from there until you go on a date, kiss, maybe even have sex if you know what you're doing. Then maybe you'll break up and become depressed. Because you realized it took 2 years just to get close to her and only lasted 6 months. Now you have to wait another few years and try again. Because you didn't feel like increasing your chances.

    It's ok to do what you're doing if having a gf is not top priority. Just don't be surprised if you go 4 years without even getting laid. Again, with focus and determination you can do it. And everything new that you try will be work....at first. But you'll reach a point where it IS easy to get laid and even a gf. And what you'll desire is not just the idea of having a gf. But a woman who is worth your time and effort.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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