Re: Recently Separated
You got your heart broken and now you have a hard time approaching women unless you're black out drunk. You aren't the first and you won't be the last. You obviously have a fear of rejection now; and any previous feelings of inadequacy were exacerbated when your wife left you.
"No fate but what we make"
Get over your ex-wife. You are in control of this situation and its outcome. Realize that nothing about you is changed when you're drunk, except for your lack of social inhibitions. A few tricks or routine from a book might capture a woman's attention, but it is who you really are and the confidence you exude that really secures it.
I would suggest you take some time to find out who you really are, and what you really want. Are you looking for another serious relationship? Or are you just trying to get over the loss of your last one.
Rule Number 1: You are not a PUA.