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    DrLove0829 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Recently Separated

    Hello all, I joined the forum today because I need some help with my game. A little bit of background on me - I am 26 and was married young to my college sweetheart. About 6 months ago she left me. I'm just now getting to the point where I want to start picking up women again, and that is why I need help.

    I read "The Game" and some other books, and I feel I am in a pretty good spot. I already naturally do most of what is outlined in the books with one big exception - I have no idea how to successfully approach women.

    What has happened the past few times I've gone out is that my friends and I drank a little more than we should have, and then I blacked out at some point in the night. The next morning I wake up to a new girl's number in my phone. Whatever I do drunk apparently works, but I'd really like to replicate that success when I'm sober especially because I normally do not drink much.

    Anyway, I'm looking forward to chatting with you all.

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    Icarus is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Recently Separated

    You got your heart broken and now you have a hard time approaching women unless you're black out drunk. You aren't the first and you won't be the last. You obviously have a fear of rejection now; and any previous feelings of inadequacy were exacerbated when your wife left you.

    "No fate but what we make"

    Get over your ex-wife. You are in control of this situation and its outcome. Realize that nothing about you is changed when you're drunk, except for your lack of social inhibitions. A few tricks or routine from a book might capture a woman's attention, but it is who you really are and the confidence you exude that really secures it.

    I would suggest you take some time to find out who you really are, and what you really want. Are you looking for another serious relationship? Or are you just trying to get over the loss of your last one.
    Rule Number 1: You are not a PUA.

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    DrLove0829 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Recently Separated

    Thank you for the encouraging words, Icarus. You are completely right, and I just need to get over that fear of being rejected.

    I would suggest you take some time to find out who you really are, and what you really want. Are you looking for another serious relationship? Or are you just trying to get over the loss of your last one.
    I am definitely not looking for anything serious right now - I just want to get over my last one. I'm not opposed to short-term dating, but I'm not in a place that'd be good for anything more serious than that.

    A great confidence booster happened this past weekend. I was out with some friends, and I was able to get numbers from two women - a med student who was a 9 and an undergrad who was about a 7.5. I've got plans to meet up with the med student this weekend, so I'm getting the confidence back to approach women.

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    Default Re: Recently Separated

    Seems like you're warming up your engine, great mate!

    What I'm gonna tell you is what everything is going to... it doesn't matter if you fail, only those who walk in the rain get wet.
    And remember, when you're there talking to girls you should have fun. Women are a great and funny group of chemical particles so enjoy every single interaction between you and them.

    Fun is everything that needs to be on your mind. Flirting -> fun.

    Best of luck


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