Social anxiety. . . No one will deny that alcohol is a social lubricant, and when taken in moderation it is healthier for you than water. I have to stress this to you: Dude, getting so drunk you fall and break your arm is a BIG RED FLAG telling you to quit drinking! No one can lable anyone an alcoholic. That is a self imposed title from a person that is honest with him/her self.
Virginity is nothing to be ashamed of. Indeed, there are plenty of Cougars out there that would love a virgin male. The things you must do are find out where the local Cougar hangout is, be clean, dress nice and don't drink any alcohol. Make yourself available and be a gentleman around the Cougars. You'll get laid and learn a lot at the same time. Tell them you're a virgin and see how quick one of them will bed you down.
If you must drink, do it after you get laid to celebrate - just don't over do it. It turns most women off.