This has helped me out so much! Thank you!
This has helped me out so much! Thank you!
Hey guy just a brief intro here, I'm 22 from Ireland. Have been briefly read 1 or 2 PUA books like "The Game by Neil Strauss" and just join this site.
I have been pretty successful with girls in clubs when I REALLY WANT to but now I want to better myself and become natural with girls and get the ones I really want and stop slipping into the friend zone.
I'm a little atypical here. I'm 51 and widowed, and am back on the market a couple of years after the unfortunate end of a great 15-year relationship. I felt like I knew how to make a relationship stay good and last, but I was never a great dater and am sure not exactly burning up the track now, either. I am after some "what not to do" stuff, particularly in the universe of online dating and even more particularly regarding one unique HB9-to-me I made contact with recently. I have already read enough to make it worth my while to be here, so thanks to all for the prior work.
Old dog looking for new tricks.....Cool site!
Hi my name is, Willie. I am here in hopes of winning over a specific girl I am a full time college student and take care of myself fairly well most of the time. I am just tired of not knowing how to make the rite moves or when.
Hey guys I've been in the game for awhile (about 5) years. New to being online with it all... Didn't really see much value in online posing before. Anyways, some quick thoughts on game (in my opinion):
~ TRUE success in game usually results in you having a much clearer relation to who you are what you stand for and what you desire. The woman you most desire is always one of your best mirrors.
~ A killer structure and plan of practice is more important than killer material.
~ Getting the girl is just game part1. Learning to turn all your interactions into unforgettable complete connected ravishment is game part 2. Whether it be a one night, one moment, an open relationship, or a monogamous one. Desiring to expand that into as much beauty as possible is what interests me more now.
I always swore I'd help others out with this stuff if I ever got good with it. That's one of the things I'm here to do. Hopefully my posts will come as helpful and profound to you guys.
Live to discover beauty
Thanks Whogan for putting your needs out there.
I used to get the "you're like a brother to me" or the "i'd just prefer we'd not ruin our friendship". I heard them all. SUCKS!
I'm a direct type of guy in my advice typically. And back when I was getting the friend zone all the time I wish someone would have been with me. So here it goes:
~ First off stop focusing on any girls you're already in the friend zone with. As much as you think you are close to being more than a friend, its best for your growth, your happiness and for her, for you to drop it. If you want to get great with one woman, I suggest dedicating at least a year to bettering yourself in the area of manhood and attraction with all women. That means deciding to walk in the direction of more growth instead of walking towards the comfort of a relationship. I did this for 4 years, and am so grateful I did. I only did open relationships and dating till I thought I would find more growth only being in a relationship. If you conquer your attraction skills not only will you be grateful you didn't settle with who you're focused on now, but your interactions with women will be on fire!!! You'll understand yourself, women and how to bring massive passion and connectedness to the both of you.
After that long winded first bit... here are some actual tips to help PREVENT friend zone and send your interaction in more of the right direction:
~ Ask yourself in your interactions with women: "If I were having this experience with a guy would it be really awkward?" By that I mean if a man could suddenly be switched with the women you're approaching/interacting with and it wouldn't be awkward then your entering friend zone. You should be able to answer "hell yes it would be awkward". The reason being, there should be a sexual, flirtatious, fun feeling from the very start and throughout the interaction.
~ You're in friend zone because you won't own and express your desires. You want to fully FEEL your desires without any shame. So start fully exploring what your feeling when in the presence with women you desire. And strive to become more attached to what you want (WITHOUT shame) and less attached to what you don't want to have happen. When you become great with feeling your desire 100% it'll really charge your interactions with women.
~Learn to physically escalate (touch her) WAY faster: high fives, hugs, picking her up spinning her around (bit more advanced), holding onto her, leading her around by taking her hand. Some keys on doing this: ~ don't focus on where you're touching by pausing or looking at where you're going to touch her (CREEPY) ~ start getting use to being in their bubble more. especially in a loud place there is no reason to stand 4 feet from the girl yelling. You should be right up in front of her talking into her ear very quickly. Start learning to be touchy feely by becoming touchy feely with everything all day long. Start admiring things by touching more. Even with your guy friends (in a non sexual way). High five more, pat your buddies on the back, firm handshakes etc. All of it will ad up. These traits shouldn't be turn on and turn off. They should be 24/7 on, and part of who you are.
There's a start for you. Feel free to ask me for any specifics.
Hope this helps:
What's up gentlemen and Venusian artists? I'm here to share and collaborate about the PUA business.
Hello one and all, I'm new here. Looking to help improve my game and to help others