Re: Need serious help getting out of ljbf for my one-itis. Please help!
I'm going to have to say a different approach because I actually do have experience with dealing with friends that you want more with.
The first rule of dealing with friends that you want more with is...
DO NOT VERBALIZE ANYTHING!!!
I can't stress this enough. Verbalizing it brings it to light instead of "letting things happen." When you tell her how you feel and that you want more then you have become the ultimate AFC.
She needs to feel like it just happened. When you verbalize you are forcing her to admit that something is happening or could happen. If you are kissing and she says "I can't believe this is happening." Don't respond directly to it. Just smile and KEEP KISSING.
Only after sex should you start talking about being together. I MEAN IT.
DO NOT TALK ABOUT BEING TOGETHER UNTIL AFTER SEX!!
She will say a lot of different things while you are physically escalating that may throw you off. "I'm not so sure about this." "But what about our friendship?" "Is this really happening?"
These are all things that you can LITERALLY ignore and keep going. When she says these things is almost like she's working through the situation in her mind, but just so happens to verbalize it. She's not really talking to you, but her self. So why would you respond? My suggestion is don't respond. Just smile and kiss her again.
I'm very confident about this so if you follow what I say I guarantee you will sleep with her.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."