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Thread: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    I agree with the restaurant thing. Knowing really good/unique places to eat really helps. I want to add something to that however. Don't tell her the name of the restaurant beforehand. Girls are creeps, if they know the name of the place they will look it up. What I do is I tell them. "I know this AMAZING Vietnamese place. I'm going to take you there" Then I won't tell them the name. "You will find out when you get there". Or "There's this really good restaurant that just opened. I'm taking you there." They will always ask what the name is and I tell them "Not telling you, you will just look it up on that intelligent phone of yours". They love the mystery and surprise. They almost always tell me they are glad I didn't tell them the name beforehand. Plus, if they don't know where you are going you can always pull into a McDonald's and mess with them a little bit.

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Yep that's true. But if she does know the place already or you hyped it a lot and u take her to a place she's been to already it kinda deflates the surprise.

    Usually I will mention the name in passing just to avoid the scenario I mentioned (did you ever eat at Joes? In time square?). They will probably forget the name by the time your ready to take them.

    Then again, if she looks it up and it's good... It may give u value. Plus visiting a place is not Like reading about it lol. Dare her try something new.
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    I just wanted to mention something about mindset here.

    A woman is like a puzzle. Looks confusing at first, maybe picture isnt clear and we don't have the box art t o see what we are actually looking at.

    PickUp doesn't build the puzzle for you... It just shows you what the complete picture looks like. You still have to do the work yourself to get the puzzle built. You may notice patterns that you learned in pickup apply to this particular girl. But in the end, it's up to you to figure her out. Some need comfort or rapport more. Some need disqualification or dhv more. Every girl is unique. So just because you try something and she won't comply right away doesn't mean it's hopeless. You just need more time to figure her out.

    But the trap is over analysis. Thinking too much about the puzzle that is a woman will lead u no where. Sometimes you need to step back and let something be. Then after some time, you can be ready to reengage... To have at it with a new perspective.

    This is why I always suggest no contact as a first option. If you did even a half decent job, Freeze Out does two things... Makes her miss you but also and just as importantly...IT CLEARS YOUR HEAD.

    As you game other girls, you relax. You rmember how valuable you are. And when you see the girl you froze out (or she contacts you because she misses you) you will have a different perspective. Your time away may very well have shown you whats the deal with the freeze out girl.

    Don't chase a girl who you can't just seem to work with. It'll be like staring at a puzzle night and day trying to figure it out. You will go mad. Chill out. Take a break. Game on. Read up. The answer will come. Believe it!
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Another note... PU isn't pretty... It's UGLY.

    Guys come here thinking I'll learn a few lines, a few concepts and boom! I'll be banging chicks left and right. It's never that easy if you truly want to be the man that women desire. It's an ugly, brutal, up hill fight. You have to fight your own needy instincts, deal with rejection time after time, deal with even more sh!t tests than before and change change change a lot of things you take for granted (clothing, health, social skills).

    So many on these boards have to keep asking the same questions everyone else does. Why???

    BECUASE THEY WANT US TO TELL THEM WHAT TO DO. They have not dealt with the ugliness that is self examination. They want to skip some vital steps by getting exprienced PU artists to just help them. They want one girl or their ex back or whatever. They truly don't want to become a great guy that can have options and get any girl.

    They want it easy. And sorry guys... THIS AINT BURGERKING... You can't have it your way right away.

    Face your demons. Be ready to be the only person in the world who likes you (it won't be forever). Do the reading the testing the self examination.

    I'm not saying it's easy. I'm saying it's worth it
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    good shit bro. i likey long time.
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Been focusing on my text game last few weeks. Really digging Braddock's ultimate text guide. He's got a killer theory about "fuses." Ex... Some girls are short fuses, meaning that you built up enough attraction/comfort/ rapport that text game should come easy. It's also very easy to set up a meet up. Then other girls are medium or long fuses, which need more work for a meeting. Very, very interesting.

    Along with these new things I'm learning, I've been trying to nail down what I do with texting... Analyzing my strengths and weaknesses. Here's one thing I've noticed works well so feel free to try it.

    Tip: Do not say everything in one text. Break up your wittiness into at least two texts.

    We all know long texts are 95% of the time a no-no. But sometimes, we may think we are being funny or cute if we pack a whole routine in one message. It's tempting because you want to not look like a teen by always texting "lol" or "u know like whatever."

    But a woman's mind can be all over the place. Even if you know for a fact that she is home alone after a long day, she could be doing any number of things to stay busy. So you may never know how invested she is in your current text exchange. Along with this, you can not tell if she is on the same wave length as you.

    Ex... You may mention the beach during winter. You may want to get her to envision you together on the beach. However, the beach could mean vacation to her. Which in turn makes her think about finances. Which may be a downer or a cause for anxiety. You never know. That's why you don't want to say too much too soon. Give her a chance to give you something to work off. Let her guide a little the exchange doesn't come off as forced.

    Ex...saying the following may not be the best... "Hey girl I was just thinking how awesome it will be to hot the beach when the weather warms up. Imagine the sand, surf, coronas. I can smell the salt water and sun tan lotion. Can you?" Or alternate "when are u taking me?"

    Now I have used this whole set up before in my previous texting exchanges. And I still like it. It's good and works well with an HB who has shown investment. But generally, it's too upfront, too detailed, too soon. A better way is to ease into it. Not only will this allow her time to think about it (therefore making her think more of you) but it lets the conversation flow more organically. Before you know it, you guys will be off topic, which IMHO is great for building comfort or rapport.

    So notice the different way to work it...

    1. Mention the beach and how u want to go when it's warm.

    2. Have the details of what u want to say about the beach in your mind. And save it there.

    3. She can respond in these main ways.

    - she can give you nothing to work with (ex. lol)
    - she can follow your train of thought positively (that sounds like fun)
    - she can follow your train of thought negatively (I don't like the beach)
    - she can change subject
    - she can not reply at all

    4. Bounce off her response. Even though you have a reponse in your head, be prepared to change subject. This is the most jarring thing that can happen so be ready to get into something else. This IS texting so this shouldn't be too hard to handle. You have time to respond.

    For positive, you can respond with the beach smells likeetc... Don't you want to go... Etc etc. But do it gradually.

    For negative, ask her why she hates it but be careful. You do not want to bring up unpleasant memories or her strong dislikes. Ask her lightly about it. Something like really? I done think I've known anyone who ever said that. Don't you like the ocean?

    If there is a major issue (childhood trauma) you should show at least a little concern (whoa so sorry that's tough etc). But worst case, cut your losses. Move on. Change subject. Give it some time before you text again (not more than half hour). You may even want to completely change subject by sending a funny pic or something.

    If she gives the lol, either respond right away or wait an hour. Proceed with positive reply scenario.

    If she doesn't respond, wait until tomorrow... Tell you dreamt about the beach after you guys text about it. Then get into the smells, sites etc.


    5. Tell her to take you. Always put it on her! It's fun and makes her think about doing stuff with you!


    Hope this helps some guys out. Have fun!
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    wow, I like this thread of suggestions for people. I had that thought of how learning where all the good places to eat were, but now I'm going to set out to find even more of them.
    there are so many good suggestions on here that could help a lot of people.

    I want to also share a few of my suggestions.

    1. keep your car clean and smelling fresh (think, if your going to have car sex you don't want to be laying on top of plastic bottles and candy wrappers)

    2. keep a nice big warm fuzzy blanket in your car. (I'm sure you can figure out several reasons why this can be handy)

    3. watch lots of comedy shows/funny tv shows. (it will help you to become more humorous)

    4. tape a condom to the headboard of your bed, so that when your in missionary position about to enter her, you can magically have a condom.

    5. use skin lotion on your hands, face and neck (so that when your making out, she can feel how soft and smooth you are)

    6. have some funny you tube videos you can pull up on your phone or laptop.

    7. get some unique apps for your phone that will make for interesting conversation. (for instance I have an app that has "the psychopath test" on it, you can make her take it as a qualifier and say that you don't date psycho-chicks)

    8.learn some constellations for star-gazing, everybody likes star gazing.

    9. carry a unique zippo lighter. you wouldn't believe how many chicks will ask for a light, a cool lighter makes for an interesting conversational piece. (and make sure it always has fluid in it.)

    10. have dim lighting at your place, install a dimer switch and get some lamps (candles work too, but there more obvious) dim lighting will help get woman in a more relaxed mood.

    11. have some good red wine at your place. woman love it and it will help get them into the right mood for a seduction.

    12. always pay fine attention to details, if you can make a unique compliment a woman will appreciate it for being genuine. (don't go with the usual "you have pretty eyes" or "you look amazing" those types of compliments are often considered to be rather shallow)

    13. this one touches on the idea of knowing lots of restaurants, get to know the wait staff at your top 5 restaurants. it is quite impressive if you know your waiter/waitress before they introduce themselves (oh and be sure to leave nice tips, it gives a good impression)

    I'm glad I could contribute to this thread, I think it is a great place for all the experienced pua's to exchange some good ideas. I'd be happy to here anyone elses suggestions.

    btw lockdown sorry if i hijack your thread, no hard feelings. lol

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Meteeeeooora! U hijacked my blog like thread! Get your own thread dumass! Of course it had to be a linkin park fan!

    But well I agree with 13 especially and 4 made me rotlmao so I guess I can be nice... BUT WATCH OYT THE NEXT TIME YOU CROSS MEEEE!!! INFIDEL!!!
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Ah, oh. We got Lockdown and Meteora going at it :P

    Pretty good thread. I like the point you made about having interesting pics in your phone to show women.
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Always take pics! Always... No matter where u are or what you do. If it's the least bit new or interesting, do it. U never know when u will look at it or who will be with you.

    Saw a horse and buggy in the middle of the city? Take a pic. Held your friends guitar and pretended to play it? Tell him to take a pic. Saw some funny graffiti? Take a pic!

    Also, cameras on phones are really good nowadays. The pics sometimes come out better than u expect. I'm talking really pretty. So u never know what cool stuff will turn out
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