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Thread: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    An HB today mentioned her Boyfriend and how his texts aren't priority. As in, she will respond to his texts whenever she gets around to it.

    So I just said something off the cuff that I really liked. I said,"yeah that's understandable. You been with him how long?(9 months)Very Cool. But yeah after all that time you guys are just so comfortable you lose the urgency. Kinda like a brother and sister kinda thing... The same type of closeness."

    While I highly endorse and use BF destroyers, the way I used cuts to the chase quickly. After all, she already gave the opening by saying she is not in a rush to answer his texts (loss of passion). My short version needs tweaking but I like it's brevity.

    Oh and earlier I used the house personality test (see rapport building thread, by Xavier) and her least concern was the phone which represents love life. So either she is very fullfilled with her man or just extremely comfortable with him. But most couples are together because it's comfortable, not because it's passionate. Anyway, with the knowledge she gave me, and the seeds I dropped about him, I could go full on BF destroyer later during next encounter.
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    I was talking with an HB I know yesterday. I say,"I just came to realize that I had to accept my faults and see my good qualities... And honestly, I found I have alot of good qualities."

    She said yes you have many. So I said, "Tell me one. I'm gorgeous right? That's one." To which she jokingly responded yes absolutely.

    Ok so then she asked what qualities she has that I like. Thank god my brain is awesome because I quickly said potential. "You have alot of potential. It's amazing actually. The things I see in you now will really make you great in the future."

    Of course she wanted more but I pretended to get distracted by a friend at the party to break off. This particular HB is pretty smart (yet very validation seeking) so I know she will ask about what I meant later on.

    Point is I wanted to share my response for any who might be caught off guard by similar questions. Saying potential is not giving in to them and leaves them hanging. So later you can mention something you like about her out of the blue (when in reality you've given thought)
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Your not my type.

    I used to hear this alot and it always got me down. I mean, when was I going to find a girl who's type I fit into?

    When I started pickup, I consciously made a list of all the not your type stuff I heard in my life. And you know what? Every time I heard that, and liked the girl, she ended up liking me (well, at least I think so... Or else why would she do some of the crazy stuff she did with me later on lol?)

    Now it took alot longer because I wouldn't pursue so actively (and also considered myself in the friend zone), but eventually it didn't matter what her type was... I was awesome and she liked me. Case closed.

    So I suggest that everyone make a list and think about how you were able to overcome this test. Great confidence builder.

    Bonus... When she tells me that she is into X guys, not my type etc. My response...

    " Oh man, please don't say that. (Why not?) Whenever girls tell me that, they end up really falling for me. I mean girls have told me they only like black guys, tall guys, guys they don't work with... Or they have boyfriends... And yet, everyone of them ended up with me in the end. But some of them I couldn't be with for one reason or another and they got hurt. So anyway, I figured that women who say that are really into me. So please be careful that you aren't falling for me."

    That's the long version. Tweak it to your needs
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Don't know if I shared this one yet. It's from a David D vid but can't remember which one.

    Basically, it's a line to tell girls. Make it general, act like you're warning her.

    "Be careful. Because I have had women do stuff they swore they would never do and they loved it!"

    Usually good to keep it ambiguous if they ask what. Don't tell them a whole lot. Say wild stuff or that's between me and them.

    Also maybe follow up by asking them the wildest thing they ever did (sexual or not). Escalate escalate escalate
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    Random thought... Why do I see alot of guys on here post about every women they are having even the slightest difficulty with? I mean maybe it's neediness, I dont know.

    To me it's always been a fact that I HAD to realize early on... Every woman is different. Just because things seem to be going good with one doesn't mean you're going to score easily. Some take time, others the chemistry is there and you can escalate quickly. I've had girls come around after knowing them for years, but I didn't wait for them. There are always great prospects out there.

    I think my original thought about oneitis is still absolutely true... Oneitis is the most dangerous disease to game. It can kill it before you even realize.
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    What's a good way to react to a girl patting you on the butt? It was kind of out of no where. The girl and I were part of a group and we were having an ok conversation the previous night (my first night at the group) and she gave me her phone number because I was new to the group and needed a way to find them the next night. Next night, I got there late and she was kind of distant but a lot was my fault, too (we lost each other, her fault mostly). She patted me on the butt after I was kind of dancing/ talking to another girl (but the dancing was not that intimate but I was probably showing IOIs on other girl).

    Also, another question that I have about dealing with this girl is that she loooves hanging out with this older guy. I would guess that he is about 48 and she's about 35. He is not a guy that I am at all threatened by, though (as far as competition for her) as he's not that good looking, short, and doesn't seem to be flirting with her. She just likes being friends with this older dude. So basically, he's going to be around as I try to escalate.. I am pretty confident that his role would just be to cock block as he likes hanging out with her. Another guy in the group accused this man of cock blocking, so it's not even my label of the guy. Options are to separate her from him or to just get on his good side somehow.

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    First question is easy... Tell her you're not a piece of meat. Play as if you are a nice innocent boy. Then flip it on her later when you are alone. Be the one who's escalating when it's you and her.

    Second one is more complicated because I dont know the guy. You should generally be awesome to everyone. But you don't want to be his best bud or anything. Girls will be open to anything when you guys are alone. They have no anti slit defense when it's one on one. So if you want to distinguish yourself from her male friend, get her alone and Kino. Have fun !
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    I noticed something funny the other day... A girl I have been friends with for years started giving me ioi's. I've never persued her at all, and she always considered me a jerk so there was never any sort of gaming. She is much too dramatic for me... She takes every problem so seriously.

    So why the IOI's now? Well because I was a good friend and helped her through some actual drama. She has a hot friend who's a complete jerk to her, so she is finally cutting her out of her life. She practically raised the hottie as a sister. But the hottie is just too conniving and manipulative. So I talked to my friend, played therapist for a few minutes and so on. Most of the advice I gave so straight up PUA stuff... Validation, neediness, HB attitudes about themselves etc...

    Here's the point... Helping a girl out of drama can build comfort super quickly. It counts for alot more when you're talking about some major issues. But the catch is that you can not, can not I repeat can not use this as a go to. Do not be a therapist. Simply help her out when she is stressed but do it once, for about ten fifteen minutes. If she brings it up again, acknowledge it and change subject. Also, I've known this girl for years so we already have some time built up. Usually, I tell her to have fun and forget her problems for now. But this one time I decided to just set her straight.

    And now she wonders why her hottie friend doesn't like my personality because I'm awesome. So if she ever gets back with the hotties friend again, I will get a good word (edit... Never went after hottie for reasons above. She is so manipulative to AFC tha it's disgusting).
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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    hey,

    just found your thread. Great work I would say. I have just read the OP till now and got one question. Isn't showing funny pics or funny videos on phone pretty AFC stuff?

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    Default Re: LockDown's Personal Newbie Guide - ongoing

    I personally have not seen AFC do that. Also, it's important to do it non chalantly. Your looking at pics, you happen to think it's so crazy or awesome you need to share it. This comes across as something you would do to anyone... Even another guy. Using this technique has never really failed me in opening. Of course, it's important where you go from there. But as a silly opener, I've found it works. Edit: I don't recommend videos. Gifs and pics are better because they have little investment. Videos can be time wasting. A pic is simple and easy and gives a springboard. That's all you need to go into gaming.

    Another one since I'm here... An easy way to open is if you match with a HB. Or if her and her friend match. If your shirt is the smart shade as her dress or you guys have same general colors for shirt and pants, tell her awesome we match. We must think alike. Or if she matches her friend (or even a stranger) just say how cool, you guys match. As long as they are not wearing the exact same outfit, you'll be ok. Works best in a place where you can follow up later such as at work.
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